Is it possible for a husband actually make a wife cheat on him?

that is ridiculous

it sounds like something men used to say as an excuse for committing adultery

there is no excuse for committing adultery

she left the bonds of the marriage, not him

if she felt something was lacking or something was wrong, she owed it to him and their marriage to try to fix things, go to counseling.

however, she decided to have an affair

it shows she is of little faith, selfish and self-centered

it is NOT the husbands fault

peace

Emotional and physical needs are real. When people choose to live a single life or even a celebate life they make adjustments in their expectations and essentially "close themselves off" from certain feelings. If, however people are in a relationship from which they anticipate having needs met, when they aren't there is a "starvation" process that sets in. Like any starving being there is a point where the scale of right and wrong tips and it is a mad rush to fill the need. You could almost categorize it as a form of temporary insanity.

If a spouse is withholding affection and intimacy it is possible for the other spouse to go outside the marriage to find another source.

That couple needs to be in marriage counseling. I went through the exact same experience, except I held back from the cheating part by the smallest of margins (trust me, I thought about it a lot!)

Once my husband realized the absolute torture I was going through, and had a counselor up in his face telling him that he had no right to abandon me emotionally and physically he made some changes and things are better.

They both share some blame, but he very well may have created this situation.

Counseling!

No one can"make someone cheat" on them, nor did his behavior "set her up" for her bad behavior. However, it is possible that your friend's behavior left his wife feeling emotionally neglected. She then should have discussed this with him, tried to find a way to remedy the situation; if she found that impossible to do, she should have divorced him BEFORE seeing another man. Sounds like we have two people here who either cannot or will not communicate their needs & wishes with each other. I would say there was enough blame for a marriage in trouble on both parties here. However, her ultimately cheating was HER choice. She could have chosen another way to deal with this situation. And so could he. Both needed to be more aware of their partner's feelings, more willing to work together. Now it would seem that counseling MIGHT offer some hope here, but it also seems as if the wife has given up hope. But does your friend really want to stay with a woman who cheated on him? No matter how much he neglected her, SHE took the final step to destroy their vows.

You've asked about this man before and I would say the answer in this case is no.

I don't know of any way a man can MAKE his wife cheat on him--even if he wants her to and tries to force her into an affair. She still has free will and she still has the power to resist even a strong temptation to cheat.

I would say (1) the wife is a spoiled brat, (2) she dislikes her husband, (3) he'd be better off rid of her.

I would not go so far as to say he might not have done things that contributed to her cheating--I don't know either of them and I don't know what went on in their marriage. But mature and responsible spouses of either sex don't cheat. She is making excuses for her own selfishness.

No matter which way you look at it cheating is wrong. The two of them have given up on their marriage and are not seeking for the solution to their real problem. She is saying all these hurt full things to substantiate a divorce. She is an adulterous woman that can change. He is a man that can try to make a difference if he works at it. She is a woman that can change if she works at it. Marriage is not a contract its a covenant made before God and everyone else to promise their unity to one another no matter the cost. They are both in violation of their covenant to each other and God. Its never too late to make a change and turn from their problems and live a rich married life!

If he was a bad husband, the wife should have talked to him, gone to counseling anything, including ending it before stepping out side of the marriage.

Anything else is simply an excuse not to take full responsibility for her actions. The you made me do it defense has been around since the playground. Teachers did not by it then... he should not by it now.

No one "made" her marry him. No one " made" her have sex with this other guy. She is fully and 100% reasonable for her own actions.

Not to say he did not have his own party to play for her unhappiness, but she choose the path in which to take when there were several other ways to go about it.

Another way to look at it is like this: If he was in control of all of the money, and he stopped giving her cash ( or emotional currency) She has several options in front of her. she could A) find ways to bring in new cash into the family such as a job. B) work with him to find ways so that he is willing to pay her more. c) End her business dealing with him all together ( divorce) D) rob a bank.

She choose D , got caught and now has to face the pier for that action.... that is not his fault.

its a clumsy analogy but you get my point. She had other options she choose the easy, sneaky and underhanded way out... that is not his fault.

Absolutely NOT. Your friend should be addressing her marital issues instead of cheating her way out of them! Why is she staying married if she is getting her emotional and physical needs met outside the marriage?

It's just as possible as when the guy cheats because the wife shuts him out. Funny thing,I notice you're not going off on the woman for cheating. Double standard at work here?

People cannot be made to cheat and cheaters that use this excuse are disgusting waist of our air. He should divorce her and not look back. If she really had emotional need and really did not want to cheat, then she would have TOLD her husband what she needed. Instead, she took the cowardly route, and went to another man.

No. We cannot "make" another person do anything.

Everything we do, we do by choice.

An emotionally-mature person does not blame other people for their actions.

An emotionally-mature person does not blame other people for their own emotional reactions.

An emotionally-mature person does not use other people for their own emotional needs, but see a relationship as a sharing, not a taking.

An emotionally-mature person does not use other people to create a false sense of self-esteem (they give me attention, so I must be a worthy person).

As hard as this is for him, he needs to understand that she is not capable of creating and maintaining a healthy happy lasting relationship. Shes uses others to like herself, and to avoid taking responsibility for herself, and no relationship can meet those unhealthy needs.