What to do with our eldest child?Are kids these days spoiled?Why don't they want to get a "serious career job?

I fear that due to my husb. wanting to "help out" our eldest daughter "Marie", we have created a "Monster". She's still living at home after graduating college in 2009 & has been working at a "Start-Up" co. with the hopes of them making her permanent with stk. options, like I had while working at a Start Up myself (which was a Wonderful Exp. for me as the stk split every yr. & 2 yrs. split twice in one yr. & I enjoyed 200 Engrs. coming at me with Reqs. I loved it!

Marie is driving my husb.'s car while he takes the bus to save money. Marie takes his large Suburban to her temp.40 hr./wk job. She's only saved less than $6K and Marie's graduated from college with a Bus. degree since 2009.

The "start-up" co. has had two yrs. to make her permanent with stk. options & hasn't, so my husb. & I told her to go out & look for a permanent job, as my husb. cannot keep her under his medical plan after she turns 26 yrs. old which is next yr. I guess since I worked so hard to pay for my college, both of us wanted to give our children "a better life", but I think that Marie is having too much "fun" & doesn't really want to "grow up". I want to tell her to pay Rent, buy her OWN car & Ins., but husb. wants to "help" her. I think that when she turns 26 she'll have to get "serious" about getting a "career job", which shouldn't be hard as she had excellent college grades & rec'd a couple of scholastic awards. I fear that in our intent to "make it easier on the children", we've unintentionally "created a sort of monster", well at least with our eldest. Interesting info.: We raised all 3 children exactly the same way, yet our Middle child (in 3rd. yr. of college) does chores around the house to earn his spending money and the youngest who is in her first yr. of college works 3 p/t jobs for her spending money. I worry about the youngest the least.

My husb. & I wanted to make life better for our 3 kids of which one is done with college & the other 2 are still in college. The eldest is still living at home after completing college back in 2009 & has been working at a "Start-Up" co. with the hopes of them making her permanent with stk. options, like I had while working at a Start Up myself .

She's driving my husb.'s car while he takes the bus to save money, (bus pass pd. for by his work). Marie takes his large Suburban vehicle to her temp. full-time job. The "start-up" co. has had two yrs. to make her permanent with stk. options & hasn't, so my husb. & I told her to go out & look for a permanent job, as my husb. cannot keep her under his medical plan after she turns 26 yrs. old or so. She'll be turning 26 Spring of next yr.

I guess since I worked so hard to pay for my college (working 3 P/T jobs), etc., both of us wanted to give our children "a better life", but I think that Marie is having "too much fun" & doesn't really want to "grow up". I want to tell her to pay Rent, buy her OWN car & Ins., but husb. wants to "help" her". I think that when she turns 26 she'll have to get "serious" about getting a "career job", which shouldn't be hard as she had excellent college grades & rec'd a couple of scholastic awards. I fear that in our intent to "make it easier on the children" (as we both worked so hard ourselves), we've unintentionally "created a sort of monster". Yet, the other two younger children were raised the save way. The middle child (in 3rd. yr. of college) does chores around the house to earn his spending money (as he is sort of shy), while the youngest who is in her first yr. of college & "going a mile a minute" & works 3 P/T jobs for her spending money & gas money and I worry about the youngest the Least as she has 3 p/t jobs for spending money. My girlfriends tell me that our youngest is like a mini-version of me. Yikes!

What to do with the eldest child??? Any tips, suggestions???