Family Member Marrying Someone After two Weeks & Doesn't Speak English?

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I have a Brother in Law, who is marrying this girl after knowing her for two weeks. She lives in Vietnam, and hardly understands english. He flew to Vietnam recently. After the second week of knowing her. He put a ring on her finger. He is 36, and she is only 18 years old. He swears he is not doing this for his needs. Yet, he wants to have kids fast. He was also dating someone right before he flew to Vietnam. I have tried talking him out of doing this. But he is hell bent on this girl. She is also 3 years older than his teenage son. I told him I will not give him moral support, or attend his wedding. When I see pictures of these two together. I am literally sick. Because, she looks 13 and he is so much older. It's like he is so insecure, he would rather marry someone who doesn't speak english. He has these high expectations of her. Yet, at the same time he is robbing her of her youth. What do you all think? How can I get past this?

Anonym · Accepted Answer

don't worry.  it won't last.  she'll dump him the moment she gets her green card.  just make sure he doesn't have kids with her 'cause then he'll get stuck paying her child support for the next 18+ years.  (why does he want more kids when he's got a teenage son?)  he might still end up paying her alimony since it's almost certain she won't be able to get a job here.

WhaPow · Answer

Don't worry about it. It's his mistake, not yours. 
Maybe she has a horrible life in Vietnam and your BIL is trying to help her out. I can almost guarantee that they are not "in love". 
If she moves to the US or whereever your BIL lives then after a while she will learn English, meet new people and eventually leave your BIL for someone that she actually does care for.
Oh well, let him be a screw up. He's just your BIL anyways, not like he's your real brother.

Anonym · Answer

To be honest it is entirely up to him what he does with his life.

I understand your concern but by telling him all this you are pushing him more into this situation.

If you don't like the situation than just keep away from back, they are both of legal age and both are consenting adults, so there is not a lot anyone can do.

Bear in mind that they perhaps will both be gaining something not just him. Sugar daddy comes to mind..

aispuro · Answer

Your husbands mom is your Shuutome,gibo no longer your Mamahaha,gibo. in case you sense uncomfortable approximately seeing them so oftentimes, propose on your husband that they decrease their visits down a sprint. My wager is they are so excited by you and that they understand you're so a procedures from abode and your loved ones, they are attempting to make you sense welcome. that's slightly suffocating, yet they mean you nicely so basically circulate alongside with it and it is generally ok.

roh P · Answer

Madness

Sandy Ego · Answer

He's not robbing her - he's buying her a ticket to the West. She'll be just fine; it is he whom you should be concerned about, but he's an adult, and his life is up to him.

greenfrogs · Answer

disturbing no I have no solution for you

Family Member Marrying Someone After two Weeks & Doesn't Speak English?

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