What is your opinion of my parents?

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I would like a third party opinion.

They both drink, I've helped my mom to the bed when drunk. But, for three years they worked their butts off to send me to a private school and still push hard to make sure I do well in school. I'm 16, and probably going to do all dual enrollment classes at a local college next year. I have A's and B's, and am not in trouble. Except by them and all of my "failures". If I get an A and a C on the test the same day, they'll ignore the A and yell for two weeks about the C. I'm not allowed to get a license even if I pay for insurance. I have a longtime boyfriend, and when I hang out with him my parents whisper about me being a whore and probably going to get knocked up. My mom calls me names and degrades me all the time, as does my stepdad. Physical violence is not really uncommon, though it never is severe. If I want to go somewhere over the weekend, God help me, because it is a battle. Mom will yell and scream about how I'm worthless and don't deserve to go etc...mom has severe mood swings, and once lost her mind and wanted to run out of the house naked so people would call the police and lock her up because she is "a bad mom", which leads me to think she may have a mental disorder, but she refuses to go to a psychologist. She refuses to take me too, even though she knows about my cutting and suicidal thoughts. They do want the best for me and for me to succeed, but their ways of going about it has me depressed and wanting to quit. I just need a third party opinion, somewhat of an internet psychologist, if you will.

Thanks for reading.

Let&#39;s Be Rational · Accepted Answer

BISMILLAH - in the name of ALLAH(GOD)

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alcohol is the mother of all that is evil.

but before anything first i must advise you as i would to my own bro/sis, that know, the one who commits suicide goes directly to hell, so don't even think of that road, can you sustain the pain of burning your finger for only one minute, think eternity?

See the problem is that when people don't get along, whether husband/wife, parents/children or friends, the reason behind all that is that they are not sharing same ideology in life, some are listening to their friends, some to their relatives, some following their own desires on how should they have relationship with their loved ones, and this is where the problem lies. All of these problems are solvable, if we are willing.

i have following advices for you in how to find the appropriate solution.

For depression, watch the following video, are the people in this video seem depressed or they seem grateful for what THE CREATOR has given them. Watch them and compare yourself to them.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cB71vFTYWsM

But most importantly, see we loose interest in life or become depressed when there is no correct motivational factor for us and we r following an incorrect ideology for life, if there's a correct one, you don't live a life of depression but are energetic and charged up to work for that goal, it might not make sense now, but if you read thru and think over it, it will inshALLAH(CREATOR willing). I would additionally advise you following(if trying something unique and different is not odd for you):

Listen to this song, this takes u in a totally different dimension, but listen and watch both, and then think about what the purpose of our life should be and is yours on that course, once you have understood clearly (thru this song, the interviews, the movie and the stories below) what the purpose of life is then you will not feel depressed but motivated to do something for it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m1aXR7ejw2E

Do you know about 'cat stevens' the famous singer of the 70s, now he is known as 'yusuf islam,' i would advise you watch his interview on youtube, he used to be on drugs and wasn't happy with his life even with ton of money, but now has transformed to a way of life which he is content with.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pcgCdn8I8kU

Also do you know about rapper loon, this guy was with p-diddy, i would advise you watch his interview on youtube as well.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yoi0mU4hTB4

When done, watch the following it is not based on fiction, but real events, this went on to change the course of the world that we live in today.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ccP-malnfTQ

Also read the biographies of the people at following site, see the state they were in. These people (even though some of them were very young) faced trials and persecution were socially cut off and were hated initially, but emerged as successful ones(praises to THE CREATOR ALONE for that), and made history, wrote new chapters in the books of ethics and morality, reached to the top, yet were very humble but just, the rich and strong who would want to exploit the weak would be threatened by them but the weak and poor will feel secure with them.

http://web.youngmuslims.ca/online_library/companions_of_the_prophet/index.htm

trust me there is a solution for all of our problems ALHAMDULILLAH(praises to THE CREATOR only), but we need to knock the right door.

DR · Answer

Ask your school's administration whether they offer counselors. A school counselor can get involved better than we can.

Don't worry about the license. Driving is not such a huge deal that you can't wait until you are 18 and out on your own. But maybe you can try to take your school's driver's education class, so you can at least pass the written test while still in high school.

If your parents call you names, would things get worse if you call them names in return? Or would it shock them into awareness of the consequences of their namecalling?

If your parents become physically violent with you, could you be violent back at them? They can't sue you, so what are they going to do about it? Would your act of fighting back actually shock them into fearing you or realizing that their violence has consequences?

Next time your parents whisper, tell them "I can hear what you are saying".

jokergirl129 · Answer

It's clear that your parents have issues and the fact that they drink isn't helping. In fact it also sounds like they are abusing you as well. It would be best if you talk to someone you trust about this such as a school councilor and such. That person might be able to help you better than people over the internet.

Anonym · Answer

Your parents  are awful! That's abuse, you really should call the police. She definitely does have a mental disorder, and other reason to go to the police.

мяѕ. нαяяу ρσттєя ♥ · Answer

It sounds like a bad environment to live in. If they are physically harming you and drinking, then that is definitely not right. I would suggest talking to a counselor about it. And please remember never to harm yourself and stay strong <3

Jada Elizabeth · Answer

dont do anything to hurt yourself cuz u will regret it trust me. and call the police for help. get a close family member to help u out. TELL SOMEONE. hope i helped. Good luck

Anonym · Answer

Your parents sound abusive. I think you should get out of there as soon as you can, and move on with your life.

Anonym · Answer

You need to tell someone about this. Talk to an adult who you trust

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