Women in the past were better in taking care of their homes and had less divorce problems?

People were more religious in the past and I think forgetting religions is the main cause of familial problems nowadays.If BOTH man and woman treat in an islamic(religious) and moral way there would be no divorce.

A positive aspect of modern age is that women know their rights better.

well the woman stayed at home all and good , but the problem is that most people don't have the money to do anything else and had to take what ever the husband layed out for them . A lot of men would run around, beat the wife and children and the woman had no choice to leave. Where was she to go and live and help with the children. I remember here My mother having to do what ever my dad wanted because she had worked all her life taking care of her Mother and brothers and sisters , so when Dad would come in and say we are moving she never said a word and they moved. they had to move the hay, horses , cows, chickens by wagon . So women had a lot to put up with because the men have control. Mom planted fruit trees, black berrys, strawberries, and always picked black berries and canned all the time and Dad would be gone sometimes in the wageon for a few days at a time and left mom and my two brothers to do the farming and milking the cows. There was no way to leave him if she even wanted to so don't say that women do better at home dities I know I lived a lot of this .I have a lot of stories of my mom and dad and the hard life but mom was the one that kept things together and my dad worked hard but he would go and do what ever he wanted.

Hey give Maryam M BA she deserves it for being right on the mark!

Yes it is the west causing problems acting as if they liberated women, when in reality the only ones treating their women like dirt was THEM not muslims!

So now when one is a house wife she is all of a sudden oppressed or backwards etc!

But in reality western women are thrown into a workplace of men and are made to work hard to get by.

They have taken men's roles in society when it is unnecesary, yes a woman can support herself and children if need be but if your married then let the husband do his job.

Children are HORRIBLE nowadays and I know I attend a public school and they do drugs, sex etc and do NOT feel bad about it!

SOO many kids smoke even in middleschool!

Their mothers aren't doing a good enough job raising their kids.

As for muslims having two incomes is most of the time unnecesary because no one needs to buy a large 2 story-House.

We are to be strangers in this life so all of the luxury is wrong.

Salam

no one might choose divorce only for a 'pay out', that's between the main tense issues for adults to pass with the aid of. that's not precise if females do no longer share a share of their pay with the kin costs. I guess maximum adult males shop a share of their wages to pay for their 'relaxing stuff' and for this reason is honest for women to do this additionally. no longer all mothers delight in finding after youngsters all day, and thrive on the tense situations of mixing toddler care and artwork. If a mom works, then the daddy ought to help out greater around the residing house, it is only honest. the appropriate difficulty for persons to do is to the two pass section time and share each and all the chores and the childcare, yet it is very uncommon, as that's not common artwork combining this (maximum adult males comprehend this yet won't admit it!) possibly greater fathers ought to insist on taking a year off artwork to take on the classic function that 'mothers' are nonetheless expected to do, this might then expel the parable that mothers laze around all day doing no longer something!

Yes that is all true. For both sets of women.

The western are encouraged to work and have no option but to work and pay the mortgage and share bills with her husband.

The Eastern woman have a choice and most of the time feel that they need to work, because 'what I'm I going to do at home all day?' mentality.

Sadly they want o be like the western women and feel it is best not to be labeled 'as housewife', and feel they want to be looked upon as modern and educated. They do not seem to realize that 'peace' exist at home when the children know that their mother is round them to keep harmony.

I have come across a western woman (because we talk a lot) she said that she wanted to be home with her children but told to work by her husband. The reason was financial.

Another lady I know (also a western) raised her children with fantastic manners and pure politeness.

The pure rudeness of the children today is total dis-respect for the parents and the elderly. i find it incredible that they are not taught respect of parents but are taught about Child abuse (violent, verbal, physical).

This is indicating to me that in the UK all homes are now a target of any parents, that they all abuse their children?

Every man and woman should know the basic of cooking and cleaning. Women especially because they are more natural to it.

Another point i have to make, why do men think that they must change the babies' nappy or feed the baby? Can any man please explain this to me. i really don't understand. Women should be breast-feeding naturally, and not artificial means (extraction and in the bottle habit)

The father is already involved by working and providing for the baby. It is enough that a father plays with the baby and put him to sleep.

working-woman is only one small factor associated with higher rates of divorce. The reason why there are greater rates of divorce is men and women have no patience today, they don't know how to compromise...there is no trust within the relationships(obviously due to the inter-mingling of todays society).

to buy a house today you need two incomes therefore the woman has to work. forget the traditional role of the man as the bread-winner...women are having to help out. I feel that if a man is asking his wife to work then he should play his part in the household as well.

Remember the role of a man (religiously too) is of the bread-winner....however his role doesn't stop at that....if we take for example the best of men- the Prophet Muhammed (pbuh)- (who alongside Prophethood had many other roles in society):

someone asked Aysha (r.a): "What was the usual practice of Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam at home?" She replied: "He was a human from among other humans. He himself removed the lice from his clothing, milked his goats, and did all his work himself"."

someone also asked the Prophet (pbuh) did household chores or not. She said, "Yes, of course, The Holy Prophet would mend his shoe when needed or sew his clothes if they required repair and lived just like you live in your homes."

We must not forget that the woman should give priority to her family and home first...if she is coping well and then goes out to work then there is no harm...but family comes first (and this means her work should not have a bad impact on the tarbiyah of her children) ...and that comes to your eastern women point- many women just sit at home and cook, feed and watch TV...whilst the man just goes to work---- and noone does tarbiyah of the children(again).-----> the real problem is we have lost the essence of living Islam. we live by the name 'Muslim' but we don't act it.

If we all adapt the way of the Prophet(pbuh), and the sahabas /sahabiyats, we will inshaAllah never come across problems which cause marriages to breakdown.

May Allah swt enable us all to become like the Prophet(pbuh) and his companions (r.a)

Taking care of home is not an exclusive duty of women, it is a shared responsibility, everyone who live in the home should take care of the home. Equality is beautiful.

There is no doubt. Mostly women are small minded and they dint understand their responsibilities and want to be the way men are.

its because they know its the mens turn to be in the kitchen all day and take care of the house

The fear of death is a good way to get a person to do something don't you think!