How do I deal with my pervert Dad?

does your mom watch it with him if not tell her straight its worrying you especially with your younger sister i sense there more to this than your tellin

This is a difficult situation because he's not doing anything illegal, although it may well be considered improper activities for a "family man."

When it comes to the online porn, as long as he keeps it to himself, he's probably not putting anyone in danger. Now, if he were encouraging your sister to watch it, if he was leaving it on the computer so she could access it, if he were actually manuFACturing porn!, then it would be a matter of neglect at least.

Staring conspicuously and lecherously at teenage girls is not a good idea for a man in or approaching middle-aged, especially if they're friends of his teenage daughter. Sure, it's not illegal; it's just creepy and impolite. But if those girls become unnerved by it, they'll tell their parents (which is exactly what they SHOULD do.) That might alienate your sister from her friends and cause a lot of (possibly CPS-related) drama for the whole family.

Has he ever actually done anything illegal? If he has, that's where you need to report it. If he hasn't, and what you're describing is pretty much the full extent of it, you should first try to talk to your mom. If your sister is also concerned about this, she needs to talk to Mom, too. Your mother might be able to talk to your dad about this.

If that isn't an option, and you're fairly certain his behavior isn't going to change any time soon, start focusing on your own behaviors. If you feel he acts inappropriate in public, refrain from going out anywhere with him; your sister can avoid outings with him, too. Make sure you use a separate computer from him (especially since online porn sites are notorious for trashing your computer,) and be clear with your parents that you're not expecting to find anything inappropriate on your computer or TV. (Cuz that's actually illegal.)

Good luck!

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I am actually quite suprised with the first two answers, it's not fair on you that you have seen him doing this and it's not right that he is looking at girls that are the same age as his daughters.

If you can maybe hint to him or say 'i have seen what you look at on the computer and it upsets me'

If you feel you can't confront him about it, i would definitely tell your mum mabe say something like 'i have seen dad looking at something on the internet that i think is wrong' or try and get her to walk in on him when you know he is doing it.

Good luck hun!

Anonymous email.

Say that you are one of your sister's friends, and that you could not help but notice him leering at you every time you see him. Tell him he gives you and every other girl he ogles the willies, and that it is humiliating to his daughter.

Or, if you're really brave, tell him yourself. Face to face. Tell him you don't give a cr@p what he does in his bedroom, that's not your business, but when he makes a fool out of himself staring at young women it hurts your sister nad grosses the women out.

He might not even be aware how obvious he is. Sorry, dude. That's kind of icky.

It's a difficult situation to address. I don't believe it would help if you talk to your mom. If it bothers you enough, consider sending him an email about it. Hopefully it would shock him into a new realization.

Guys and girls watch porn so that is normal. Guys looking at girls around that age is normal to just as ladies look at boy and guys that age also. Just as looking as he does not start staring at girls younger then that or start acting inappropriate. I just think what it comes down to is that you do not like seeing your dad looking at other females.

Him checking out your sister's friends is a taboo. Him watching porn is none of your business.

Tell your Mom if he is being indecent to you / your sister / either of your friends.

What your dad does is his business.

You have no right to tell him what he is doing is wrong, looking at porn is perfectly legal and healthy for a man of his age.

The ONLY time yous should be worried is if he starts making inappropriate remarks to your friends or sisters friends, otherwise it is non of your business.

Voice of Reason is wrong. Underage porn is illegal. But all men watch porn, and it's gross how he's looking at your sister's friends. tell your mom.

Voice of Reason is correct. If he's merely ogling, then that's his business.

P.S. He should be discreet, on both counts. Perhaps you should explain this to him.