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complicated marital problems (seeking advice/ opinions)?
first off, we're not talking about my marriage. so, please, nobody start bashing me about how horrible of a wife i am. thanks.
anyways, this is the situation. a couple has known each other for 8 years. married for 6. husband (we'll call him brad) is head over heels in love with his wife. he's away for many months out of the year because of his work. but he always finds days off or takes a week off to fly in and spend time with her. wife (we'll call her carrie) sacrificed a lot in their marriage together. she moved to the other part of the country to settle down with him. her family hates him for the most part, but that didn't stop her. and she basically lost her sense of religion bc she married out of her faith. now she's lonely because he's away all the time and jealous bc he's kinda living her dream job.
she starts having an affair with one of her male friends. there are no feelings involved on her part. she's just lonely and confused and angry. they've slept together twice. now she's feeling guiltier by the day. still loves her husband, but he's oblivious to everything.
how should she tell her husband? what should she say? part of this has to be brad's fault, right? opinions?
4 Antworten
- vor 1 JahrzehntBeste Antwort
So she should tell her husband that she is having an affair (and mess up his life) because SHE feels guilty? This is a guy who seems to work hard at their relationship and obviously loves her. I think she should figure out what she wants in life and then go and get it. Whether that is her husband or pursuing her dream job. Affairs are wrong and the fact that she had an affair "with no feelings involved" makes me believe she knew exactly what she was doing. I say do not punish the husband and keep it to herself. Not impressed with her behaviour.. sorry not trying to be mean.
- marheatherLv 5vor 1 Jahrzehnt
If she genuinely is sorry and does not intend to stray again- Do not tell her husband. The trouble the way I see it is, once you get away with something, it makes it easier the second time. She obviously does not have any sense of decency- adultery is the sublime betrayal- I dont believe she loves him anyway. But if she does and is" real" DO NO TELL HIM
- old beatnikLv 6vor 1 Jahrzehnt
No! No! No! Don't tell the husband. If she is just lonely and horny and not in love with the friend, then do not tell the husband. Straighten herself out and stay faithful to the husband.
Quelle(n): My wife cheated on me. I would never have known if she hadn't told me. It was a drunken moment, not a long affiar. I wish she hadn't told me. That was 35 yrs ago. We are still together. I still love her with all my heart. But I wish I did not know about her cheating. - Christie BrucksLv 7vor 1 Jahrzehnt
i would say honesty is the best policy in most cases with the exception of this one.
i think she should leave her husband and the guy that she had an affair with and work on herself.
her admission is not going to magically make everything OK. can she stay married to her husband?
