Is it a good idea to avoid you ex if they hurt you or ever speak to them again?

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Would y’all say that it’s a good idea or stupid to avoid your ex completely because mine really hurt me and I don’t even want her to see me anymore? We live on the same block so there is a chance I could run into her but what I do is go in and out the back of my house where I now park my car. She broke us u and said we need to be on time apart but we can still be friends. Like a dummy I went along just to get back with her and found myself still playing the boyfriend roll without a relationship. When that didn’t work and I told her that I couldn’t trust her for telling her friends our business in our relationship and the secrets that I told her that I told no one else and she got mad at me. So we went from time apart to “we need to distance ourselves farther from one another” so its been 3 weeks and I haven’t contacted her or seen her should I keep avoiding her because I’m a nice guy who did everything for her and treated her better then any other guy she has been with even her family. The other day my sister said she saw my ex on her way to the store, she said when she walked passed her house and she saw my sister on her way out the door she ducked back in the house and peeked out until my sister was out of sight. I know this might sound like I’m hiding from her but what else I can do I feel like crap for how nice I was to her. Its like all the good things I did for her without asking for anything in return doesn’t even count like I did nothing for her at all.

Queen of Sheba · Accepted Answer

You can do this for a while but not forever.  Eventually you need to let go of the pain and hurt and just ignore that she exists.

   she has a guilty conscience it sounds like if she hid from your sister.

    You shouldn't look her way and just ignore her even if she speaks to you if shes alone and you're alone.  If someone else is present you should just politely say, "I gotta go." and go without giving her the time of day.

    You're a nice guy and you might not like this but you need to also be nice to yourself and after how she betrayed you and trashed your love, she doesn't deserve for you to acknowledge her.

    Still, you'll make yourself look bad if you're downright rude so don't be.  Just say no like you say no to drugs because she's bad for you, like a drug and she might try to get you hooked again if you give her the time of day.  So don't.

Burton · Answer

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M. G · Answer

You can't hide from her forever but that doesn't mean you have to talk to her. Hiding basically gives her the upper hand and you don't want her  to feel like she has some sort of hold on you. Walk with your head high and let her see that you are happy without her and that you've moved on. It sucks that you did so much for her and you got the short end of the stick, but hey plenty of other girls in the world who would love for someone to do  that for them. 


And if she's anything like the typical female, she'll be jealous if you have another girl and you treat her just as good if not better (LOL but revenge isn't always the best thing to do lol)

me · Answer

I understand.... she hurt you so bad when you were extremely good to her that you feel stupid after you found out that she didn't truly care 
i think that its wrong that you are changing ur day to avoid her but at the same time its what im doing..... I think you should just forget about her and give yourself more time without seeing her at all so it could be easier for you when you finally forgive her for everything shes done

Is it a good idea to avoid you ex if they hurt you or ever speak to them again?

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