My half-sister found me. I want to know her, but I can't deal with this right now. What do I say?

I can understand your feelings - it is heavy, especially when you didn't expect to have any further contact. There's nothing wrong with taking it slowly, and waiting until you're ready.

You don't have to say or do anything first. Just respond to whatever she says online - keep it light and friendly as with anyone you're interested in - for whatever reason - maybe she'll will post something you'll want to comment on. If you feel you must say something, you can just talk trivia -(work, hobbies, sports, vacations, appearance etc) there's no need to get into serious emotional conversations.

Be open to the idea of a future relationship with her. You might find that she will really enrich your life. (But if you don't get along particularly well, it doesn't matter. Lots of relatives don't.)

I don't think there's anything wrong with involving your brother. In fact you might feel more comfortable sharing the discovery of your half-sister with him. Enjoy getting to know her.

I can relate to what you are going through. I have spent a great deal of my life searching for family member (I'm an only child and live in a different country) I was found by a relative a short while ago.

I am also going through a lot and seeing a psychiatrist for it.

I am forcing myself to put my problems off to the side for an hour a day to write an email, I try to keep things general for now, until I am ready to share.

Her finding you is a gift, don't ignore her but, keep things as brief as you can without making her feel shut out.

If I were you, I would be the one to get your brother and half sister together and hopefully they form some kind of bond that, will give you time to deal with your issues.

I think that you should tell her the truth. That you are going through some emotional stuff, you don't have to go into detail, but tell her exactly what you told us. You should tell her that you do want to know her more and get in touch with her. If she knows you care and is a nice enough person, she will wait until you are ready to meet with her. I think that you should casually bring up your half sister in a conversation with your brother, and then tell her that you are talking to her, nothing big, just chatting. If you don't make a big deal, there is less likely that he will. Hope this helps and hope it turns out good with you (half and full) siblings!

what ever problem you have she didn;t cause them, you should put your sef to side and open your heart to your sister and please tell your brother don't make that decission for him you just might meet your best friend give her a change

just tell here

deal with it