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ok so this started years ago, this is between my husband, his brother, his sister, his mother, all their spouses, and affects all the children.. 11 total... here goes. my mother in law has had a boyfriend for the last 13 years or so and hes the bottom of the pit lowest of the low. everyone in this family has awful stories about him and most of us want him gone so here's the dilemma, in 2006 he left my mother in law and moved in with another woman same night, then my MIL tried to kill herself to win him back. when that didn't work she went into a deep depression and wouldn't eat or even move, now all of her children and their spouses got together to try to talk some sense into her explaining how we all felt and what he had done to everyone. well he showed me his penis 2 times, he showed my sister in law his penis and then tried to enter her room. he drilled a hole in the restroom walls to sneak peeks at everyone while we showered, and was caught. now this doest even scratch the surface but the largest blows were when my sister in law told all of us that he touched her butt, and then she caught him with her daughter on his lap in what looked unsettling to her... now my mother in law knows all of this but it doesn't seem to bother her, well my husband and myself told her that we wouldn't go around her and that she couldn't see her grandchildren if she didn't end this Madness, she chose him.. ok well then we talked to my brother in law and my sister in law for support and my sister in law was so scared of her mother that she chose him as well.. my brother in law is on the same page with us about not being around this man but they wont let go of their mother, so now myself and my husband are left in the cold, that part doest bother me except my six year old is starting to ask questions and seems angry... our kids all go to the same school and my sister in law and i cant stand to be in the same room... what can i do

Eddie · Accepted Answer

This is a tough situation. But you need to isolate you, your children, and your husband from being around them. I know it is painful but if these people truly cared about your families well being  they would work out a plan that would be less stressful. Get away from these people. Years down the road you will thank yourself. A family gathering should make you feel good, if not question it.

Anonym · Answer

I am sorry that you are facing such difficulty. Although you are upset with her, I would try to find out why she can not let go of this person. Is it true love, sex, fear, financial support, etc? Sometimes it is difficult to see the whole picture when you are being greatly affected by the situation, the same applies to her. I would try to stand by her side and give her support that it  sounds like she needs. Perhaps you can make sure your six year old is only there when you are and "the guy" isn't. It could be a big mistake to divide up or not talk to a family member in some of their darkest hours no matter how difficult. Explain to your 6 year old that grandma is sad and needs help to feel better again so there are some rules that need to change for a little while. I hope this helps.

blackpool lass · Answer

hiya, there is nothing you can do to get back in there good books.they are all wrong siding with that terrible guy.best thing was when he moved out.your in laws wil side with there mum,because she is hurting so much.she loved him,and could see no wrong in him .the only thing you can do is to write her a letter,saying you are not sorry for what you said about this guy, but that is our opinion,and you are entitled to that.but you don't want to lose her as you love her,and your child is suffering because he can't see is grammar.so can she see it in her heart to either put our differences behind us.or at least will she see her grand child 1/2 a week.as its not fair he should miss out on seeing his grammar. all you can do is when you have sent/give/post the letter,wait for the reply.then take it from there.good luck.xx

tenorio · Answer

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♥ J e s s i c a ♥ · Answer

Well, this is tough. You must isolate yourself from this man, no matter what it takes. Even if it involves isolating yourself from the people you love, this is for the safety of your child and husband, and whats more, yourself.

I hope it works out. :)

this is a long one... please help me.?

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