I can't socialze proberly?

Question

that's my problem,

when i see one strange person comming to me and ask me something, I've noticed that I can talk to that person proberly without getting nervous or shy, like I know that person as my brother, i completly show my personality, but now here is the problem
when somebody else joins the conversation, i'm always quit and i'm afraid to say somthing stupid, i feel like they gonna critise me, i hate that situation, once i met a nice person, and we hanged arround the whole day, untill her friends which i dont know came, and i was like totally shy, and that nice person became mean to me  and they made fun, as i totally switched to a nervouse shy person, i didnt even introduce myself to them, anyway i lost contact to that nice person and i feel so terrible that i didnt speak up in the group, ifeel like they ignore me critse me i just feel bad about my self.

thats how the conversation starts and ends with a new person,
person; excuse me do you know where the next busstop is?
me: there many, which station do want to go?
person; to harrow bustop
me; it's just there,come i show you, i was gonna by pass it anyway
person; ok thanks
me; you are not from here isnt it
person; naa, i'm just visiting my mom
me; thats nice, so you living alone
person; yeah, im studying in university
me; i just finished my college, and now im taking a year of
person; thats cool i should have done the same....
.....etc...

and then suddenly her friends came like 3 of them at the bus stop.
friend1; hey lora, where have you been
friend2; we were looking for you, everthnig arite
person; yah i just didnt find the bus stop,
friend3. that person showed you the the way, hi my name is christie
me; hi im jane
friend2; your from here isn't
me; yeah
person; so when is the bus comming
me; i think.. aeh..
friend1; look here it's written here on the table
person; oh yeah rite
me; hehe( stupid laugh)
friend2; lets take a taxi thats better
me; but its expensive hehe(stupid laugh)
person; so aint your money is it
friends; i gotta work
me; no im looking for one
friends; ok lets go everybody... the end

so tah how the converstaion ended no bye no thanks,

Anonym · Accepted Answer

I have those experiences too.
It's social awkwardness.
Unfortunately, the only way to get rid of it is to keep on being social until you're used to being in those kinds of situations.
Sucks..but it's true.

eike · Answer

I'm like that, I'm only comfortable talking to a couple of people that I know at a time and that's if I know them.. it's ok, you just have to take more time to get to know people than others. If you can find thoughtful enough people, that can help, maybe a social group, that's what I do. Don't worry about situations like that too much, it can be damaging in the long run, just try to relax and don't feel like everything hinges on what you say. Lots of people can just be jerks to others, they're not worth worrying about. They evidently didn't try so so much to make a good first impression themselves, find someone who does. 
And along those lines: How unhelpful it is of some people to criticise your spelling- if you can't be helpful find another question!

Anonym · Answer

hey! dont blame yourself! this girl was a 2 faced! go on and forget her. Not worth mentioning about! :)

Fly Guy · Answer

Well stop thinking so much be comfortable with urself and u'll b surprised at how many friends u'll make. seriously it all about how u come off to people ur first impression is wut determines most of all of your realtionships with people just be urself.

John D · Answer

Why not accept that you are a misanthrope and enjoy it?

Anonym · Answer

you cant spell properly either

nevaseemeagain · Answer

you cant spell either

I can't socialze proberly?

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