Boyfriend at dinner party?

if it'syour home say it as you want it to be.

Well, I don't know what age your daughter's boyfriend is, but if he is under the age of 20 and/or doesn't have a job, it might be hard for him to get a smoking or a kilt especially for the dinner party. I don't think that you should say anything to him regarding his clothes, but your daughter can talk to him and nicely tell him that it's going to be a very posh and that he should try to dress as nicely as his wardrobe allows.

If the occasion has already passed she might mention at some point that the next time she takes him out together with her parents (you) she expects a more refined evening wear on his behalf that sneakers and baggy khakis.

And no, I don't think that you are snobby to expect a person to dress up a bit for a evening out, but don't expect a kilt or a smoking as they are clothes that a person very rarely will wear. A blazer might be more logic.

tell your daughter to have a talk with her boyfriend and explain the way that the family functions work. she needs to ask him if he would be willing to wear a kilt since all the other men will be wearing one. if he is not comfortable wearing one then at least let her ask him to wear something nice and not baggy pants and sweatshirt or whatever. you need to accept him as he is but then he needs to respect your family also. i believe and always have that everything in this world is made up of compromise and mutual respect.

people are always trying to make a statement about themselves which is fine and dandy. if the site of the boy gives you acid reflux then you should have your daughter talk to him, or you yourself can. if the dinner party is to be invitation only, then you can add to the invite black tie or suit requested, that might give a hint. if you have to sit down with the boy(i'm assuming he's a boy not an adult) tell him how important this evening is to you and that you would be honored if he wore his"dress up clothes" and maybe he will relent or not accept the invitation. if he is scottish you really have not a leg to stand on, for that will be considered formal wear in scotland which by the way would make excellent party conversation. in either case it is what you can accept or reject

I think making him wear a kilt is a little over the top! However, I do understand that you would like him to make an effort. I would have a polite word with your daughter and ask her to ask him to wear at least a shirt and some smart jeans and shoes. If she objects, you will struggle, as I can see her taking his side and she may object to coming to the dinner party at all. I think using "tact" here is vital. Good Luck!

Tell him it's a dressy ocasion and slacks and button up shirt are required. However, a kilt or smoking jacket are just plain silly.

Most guys will have some kind of dress up clothes in the closet - providing they fit and aren't moth eaten. Even if he just wears kahkis and a nice button up shirt, it will be better than baggy pants.

I have never heard of a smoking. I will google it.

Tell him to wear dress pants and a button up shirt. Have your daughter say something, not you.

"Hey, we are going to a nicer dinner and mom said dad is wearing khaki pants and a button up shirt, so i guess we better dress up a little"

tada!

Wow. you purely confirmed his kinfolk that you're disrespectful, discourteous and juvenile. a dinner celebration isn't the time to have a nutrition wrestle. All you could do at this factor is make an apology profusely. tell them that even as you had good intentions, your lack of judgment change into stunning and also you're sorry.

I'm sure he would be a good sport about it, if he cared for his girlfriends feeling at all. Just expain to him that that is tradition in your family, and by it being new to him it would be a learning experience and maybe kind of fun. Like I said he should go for it if he cares at all.

tell your daughter [the one with a boyfriend] in advance how the dress attire for the dinner party should be. then she will be able to tell her boyfriend. this will leave everyone happy. and it wont be awkward.

I think maybe you should communicate to your daughter what you expect. It would be easier for her to talk to her boyfriend about it.