Is it a bad omen if you dont have sex on the wedding night?

It makes no difference whatsoever. The only "bad" thing might be if there is no sex because the couple is having a dispute. It is certainly not a requirement to consummate the marriage that night, although common to do so.

It's not a bad omen, just a bit unfortunate. I've been married twice and the first time we didn't have sex the wedding night. The second time, we did, but we were both exhausted and it wasn't very energetic. (I'd wanted a big wedding and we'd had over 250 people, which is a heckuva lot of work, as you can imagine.) Nevertheless, it was really nice and felt very snuggly, too.

The sex you have on your wedding night probably won't be the best, hottest sex you've ever had or that you will ever have, but it'll be the first time you do it as a married couple, which *is* special. And sex is fun, so feel free to knock yourselves out if you're so inclined.

Nevertheless, if you get up to the room and you're both completely wiped out and it's all you can do to strip off your clothes, shower, and fall asleep next to each other, that's a lot more common than you might think. Figure you'll catch up with each other in the morning and call it a night. You've made it through the wedding and the reception and you're still alive. :)

It can be.

We had had sex before the wedding.

Still, I was looking forward to the wedding night.

But I'd also bought all the garbage crap about 'maybe the couple will be tired'. So I didn't push hard.

No sex the next morning either. I think it was later the next day, she finally felt guilty because we saw an old friend of hers from out of town at lunch, and they told her they had sex between the wedding and the rehearsal because they couldn't wait.

Was it a bad omen? Just one more in a long line I should have dealt with years earlier.

No, it is not a bad omen.

The pressures and effort in putting on an elaborate wedding usually completely wear out both the bride and groom and attempting to have sex in a completely exhausted condition is not the proper atmosphere for a successful first time physical experience.

Historically the bride and groom were required to have sex in the presence of witnesses so that there would be no question as to the paternity of any children born of the union. This was particularly important in royal weddings and of the propertied classes or people. Imagine trying to perform under these conditions?

Today we are more discrete in our sexual practices, but the pressure to perform is still present.

Sex should be in a relaxed, non-stress tranquil and loving atmosphere to be the most pleasing experience.

Less emphasis on sex and more emphasis on the loving, mutually naturing relationship is the key.

Good luck.

I wouldn't say it was a bad omen unless you were not interested in any sex, or you had an argument that kept you from being intimate. My husband and I did not do anything on our wedding night because we were just so darn tired after the wedding and reception. We stayed at a hotel that had a nice jacuzzi tub though. We came in, took a nice warm bath together, crawled into bed and fell asleep. Now the next morning we did have a nice time before checkout! :) We have been together almost 10 years so I don't think it was a HUGE deal. :)

A lot of people don't. They are just so tired and worn out that they wait until the following morning / start of the honeymoon. I also had a friend who couldn't perform on his marriage night itself (though they had been sexually active in the past), probably due to stress. He has now been married for 14 years and has 2 kids (still happily married). So the bottom line, no I don't think its a bad omen.

That depends on how much you party until the dawn arrives and might not be too capable to perform such a duty and there may be a medical reason too for us to consider.

Unfortunately these days sex has usually been carried out more than once before anyone gets married, so who really cares there is always tomorrow ain't there.

don't let ancient fiction mess with your present. If you feel that you don't want to wait, don't wait! if you two are serious about getting married, then your love will be there on your wedding night also. Just do what you want that makes you happy. also, your future hubby might be right. what if you wait until your wedding night? alot of times when girls loose the big V...the first time isn't really all that enjoyable cause it does hurt, but I promise, I mean PROMISE!!! that it does get more wonderful after that!

Bad omen implies a sign of unfortunate thing happened. It depends on how much one or the other might have wanted sex on that night. Importance of the event supercedes all that caused the failure or prevented it. For us it didn't happen because we wanted it to occur. A special moment to start a life together, and enjoy all those nicer private times.............

Ironically I would have to say NO. MY husband and I were so excited to have sex for the first time as Mr. & Mrs., but by the end of the night we were way exhausted and fell asleep in each others arms on the couch! (We chose to have a honeymoon later because the age of the kids, I couldn't leave them like that. It just seemed selfish.)