Is love even suppossed to last forever?

Anthropology speaking your friend is correct. The hormone that is released when you are around a person that makes your heart go thump, will only last about 4 years. For the exact reason your friend stated, the children at age 4 are not so dependent on their moms.... But, that is hard to write songs about, the mystical force of love is much better for stories and songs... and uhm, poetry

"Enough of this nonsense. Clear out her room, only have her pillow in there. Everything -- TV, computer, games, sell it. Tell her she'll have to earn it all back with good behavior. You are in control." This. *Though, leave her entire bed. Not just pillows* Seriously, she may throw a fit over it. She may call you a bully for it. But this isn't against the law and she can't do anything to stop you from doing so! Let her whine, let her say she hates you. She's probably going to, but she doesn't mean it. She's trying to manipulate you. You have to let her know you aren't playing. You've tried the nice route and it didn't work. As I always say to my children, "You can go easy or you can go hard." Usually they choose the easy way but sometimes I have to pull out the 'hard way'. DON'T BE A PUSHOVER. Children learn quickly that you're a pushover and won't be bothered when you take things away. Could this be why she doesn't seem phased when you take things from her? Set a time period to take things away, A MONTH AT A TIME is a good limit for her right now. And stick to it. DO NOT give it to her before the limit you specified is up. Write it down somewhere when she should get it back, too, so she cant tell you otherwise. Right now, she deserves EVERYTHING taken away and to have it given back with good behavior. She must retain the good behavior for a month before she gets something back. Give her things back one by one. Once she's gotten better...a week or two is a good amount of time to take things away. Make sure you find what she cares most about to take away! My mom always took the computer away from me and I hated it! And also, NEVER debate with your child. She does not and should not have any say over her punishments. Warnings are a no go as well. She does something she knows she shouldnt do, there shouldn't be a warning. Warnings make them think it's okay to do it sometimes..and it isnt. If you allow your child to debate or compromise with you, she begins to think she has some amount of control and that she can weedle her way out of punishments if she debates enough with you. Don't allow this. You are the parent, she is the child. Make sure she never mistakes this. It's harsh love, but she needs to learn. When she's older, everything will be alright. I remember my mom had a time period where I was out of control and she had to do something like this to me. I told her I hated her and many other mean things...but I love her. We're best friends now.

Love with the senses (smell, taste, touch, see) is short term that oxytocin will form resistance to ... that's why it's commonly know that lust "ebbs & flows" at it's own will. This kind of sensual love usually is attached to "addicts" who you'll find that they seek not only lust, but other chemical "high's" as well like adernilene, tabbaco, alcohal, food, drugs (cocain, ect)... basically, they're rewarding their short term behavior.

The other type of love, filio, is long term. Dolphins have been studied (as they mate for life) and they form another form of oxytocin in the brain which is more towards the seritonin instead of domamine. These dolphins ususally die withing 6 months of thier spouse dying. So, there is another love, and within this love the lust will "ebb & flo" but, the bond is eternal if you dare to let the love blossum that far.

Like any question about love, the answer is always yes and no in my opinion. Simply because there is no defined and determined rule about love. Well, in th case of your friend , I think she is mistaken. And I want to point out that I soon as a relationship ends , it's not love anymore and never was. It's what I think anyway. I kinda believe in true love. So of course love is supposed to last forever if it's a true love and meant to be. My grandma and grandpa (died 6 years ago) loved each others for more than 40 years until one day he died after a heart surgery. I grew up in their house and they gave me a good recipe of what marriage and any relationship based on love should be. They are not perfect but they faced all the challenges together. I remember how my grandpa used to grab her hand, tease her and kiss her from time to time. I felt that it was ridiculous at that time and I used to blush and they laugh at me!So I guess the hormones never died! lol it's all about how to fuel that love in the course of time and never let that flame die...Hope you see my point.

love and peace!

Well, that four years thing is full of crap. I think somebody can be in love much longer than that. However, I don't think love is supposed to last forever. I'm a believer in multiple...true loves. Although I don't much like thinking about romance stuff at all.

Read her Shakespeare's sonnet 116

SONNET 116

Let me not to the marriage of true minds

Admit impediments. Love is not love

Which alters when it alteration finds,

Or bends with the remover to remove:

O no! it is an ever-fixed mark

That looks on tempests and is never shaken;

It is the star to every wandering bark,

Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.

Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks

Within his bending sickle's compass come:

Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,

But bears it out even to the edge of doom.

If this be error and upon me proved,

I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

In general there are different kinds of love, but the highest, most true form is forever and is unchangeable because it does not depend on any one person or 'favorable' circumstances.

I really don't know about your friend, her theory sounds a bit flaky in my opinion, however, I do not necessarily think love lasts forever....although that depends on how you are interpreting love, is it simply romantic love you speak of? Infatuation.....lust, those things dissipate as time passes, really loving someone in a marriage / long term relationship) would be continuing to love them once those other aspects fade to a certain degree.

She's partially full of crap. Love is a chemical reaction and it doesn't last that long by itself, but people are capable of making it continue for a long time.

Well, I don't know how religious you are (because I'm not overly as some are), but in the bible I believe that it talks about how God makes one person for each of us to spend our entire life with. I think she either has commitment issues or hasn't found that person and is scared that she won't so she makes excuses.

TRUE LOVE is not just about the lusty attachment feelings. It's about choosing to put some one first always and love them even when you don't like them.

And children need both parents through out their entire lives!