What does a gramma do?

You are the mother's mother. Tell your daughter to clean up after him. And as for the tongue I'd pop him in the mouth. Wouldn't have to be hard as I'm sure no one has every done that to him. Your reason...I'm in charge of my house and no one sticks their tongue out at another person while in my house. If someone doesn't like it I'd tell YOUR little darling to take the brat home and come back when they earn the right.

And I'd point out to your daughter that you don't want him in your life at this time and you don't think anyone else will either and soon it will just be the two of them because no one has to put up with what she is creating.

This nine year old didn't just become this way overnight as you well know. From the get go, his parent(s) should have put him in his place. He has behaved in a way that he's been allowed to, now undoing that will not be easy. I can only try to understand where you're coming from where his mom is concerned. As long as she makes excuses for his bad behavior, he'll play on it, & as he gets older, he'll become more out of control. Someone needs to get the upper hand & it may have to be you. I can't even begin to offer advice because I have five grandchildren & none behave or have ever behaved like your grandson does. It must be hard to witness this type of behavior. Is his father in the picture? If so, does he have any type of control over your grandson? You may have to get some opinions as how to handle this situation, & take the first step. If he enjoys coming to your home for a day or overnight, tell him he can't until he learns to behave. Tell him in front of his mom. I wish you luck in trying to reach your grandson. He may have some anger issues & is acting out towards his mom or anyone else. I can only imagine his behavior at school. Right?

Your son or daughter? I would tell him/her in private that you are very worried about this. It can cause some serious problems for this child later. If they don't like to hear that the precious little one is being bad, then every time you see him stick out his tongue -make sure his parents know. Say something like , Billy do you know how bad that looks when you stick your tongue out at your mother.? It shows you don't love her very much and you don't like her. Is that how you really feel? If not, then you should behave better and act like a young man and not a pure brat. Parents may get mad, but someone needs to reach these people so the child can be helped. He is heading for trouble if they don't start correcting him. Good Luck

The child needs to be disciplined by his parents. If it is your house then you set the rules. If my son had ever urinated on the toilet seat past the age of 5, he would have had to clean it up. He seems awfully old to stick out his tongue. That usually stops at about 4 with the parents doing their job. There seems to be a respect issue also.

Wow you're a MEAN gramma, God bless you. He'll thank you later . Why are parents today so afraid to take their kids in line, teach them some respect for others and that there are rules to be a human being and not a little beast.

Heck even my cat knows how to use the litter box , at nine he should too. Get him adult pampers and make him wear them when he's at your house. But I do like the idea of a potty.

Mama needs to have a severe talking to as well, and if she's your dil, your son needs a severe talking to too.

I don't mean to be disrespectful or mean, but your daughter seems to get the "ignoring the problem" from you.

you see that there is a problem with your Grandson and yet haven't done anything about it either.

Please like I said I'm not saying that to be mean.

Put your foot down and stick to it.

Don't play mean gramma, BE mean gramma. Set a standard that has to be held before either of them come back. If you feel like hauling off and smacking him when he does something wrong, DO IT. Right now he knows you won't and he's playing that to the hilt

I apologize if I have offended you. I don't mean to

Well he certainly acts the brat. Does he act this way at school also? That would be interesting to find out. About the only thing you can do is appeal to his mom (is she your daughter or daughter-in-law, I ask because it might be touchy with a DIL) about his behavior. If he can't behave then he can't visit. I would suggest that you broach the subject of counseling for the boy as he already is exhibiting anger management difficulties of a passive aggressive nature.

Good luck.

PS I can sure see why you'd dearly love to give him a smack or two must be difficult to resist. I know it would be for me.

First of all, I would want to know from my daughter why she is refusing to be a parent. Second, it's your home and your grandson...if she won't raise and discipline the child, I WOULD!

Next time you see the little sh*t stick out his tongue at his mother, I'd smack his chin and make him bite himself. Not too hard, but hard enough to make it hurt like H*ll! I would do that EVERY TIME! Second, if he pees all over the place...HE would clean it up!

Kids are so bad and your daughter isn't doing him any favors by turning a blind eye to this behavior. He will really be the one to suffer in the end...

Good luck

Terrie

well grandma

hymmmm...take him into a room ... and have a talk with him

mabye threaten him about something

play mean grandma

make him thinjk you are mean then...he will obay you[:

and when he starts behaveing ... be nice to him...

and to stop the peeing on the toilet seat

you should but a baby lock on the toliet[: and make him use a potty chair... he will feel embaressed...and he will eventually stop peeing on the seat ... tell him when you are a big boy and stop peeing on the big seat you can use it... make him use the potty seat for about 4 days he will be a lot better trust me

oh&& im olny 13...but trust me i know this will work[:

In my life time I have seen a lot of this behavior.Some of these children are writing letters home to their mama. and mama can go see them now twice a month at the big house, He needs to be tested to see if he I s A, D, D, or any other mental disorder If this is not the case The family is in dire need of counseling,