The court stated I had to get (retrieve) legal aide. Besides the obviuous, why?

I'm not sure anything about your case, but the court is not permitted to provide any legal advice to you including how to complete forms or file pleadings. Generally speaking, however, it is a very good idea to retain counsel if you have a case pending because lawyers are specially trained to navigate the judicial system and to develop the best arguments using law and rhetoric. When I worked as a paralegal, it was extremely frustrating working with pro se individuals as they had no clue about very basic things and I was not permitted to say anything to them.

You do not have the skills to communicate effectively (with the court and opposing counsel) and precisely what you need to, to get through all of the nuanced rules of the court (for example, in DC you must have pleadings 2 hole punched) or to develop a legal strategy and do adequate research.

Based on how you're writing your questions, the judge is probably doing it to protect you from yourself.

He's doing you a favor, even if you don't understand why.

Yes, I'd say you're hurting your case. Free advice is worth exactly what you pay for it - nothing.