How do you handle it when someone offers you something you don't want multiple times?

the sad part is that she's killing you with kindness.. she just wants so badly for you to be comfortable and contented that she's driving you nuts.. lol

if shes asking you multiple times in a row, then a good trick is to ask her a question right back to change the direction of the conversation.. for example...

Her: Would you like some dessert?

You: No thank-you, but could I get some water?

this way she still gets to feel like she's helping you, and you get her to stop asking (at least for afew minutes xD)

good luck =)

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I may be missing the mark but something tells me this is an older member of your family or someone you are close to who is older. I'm rather disgusted with some of the answers ~ do you folks never think about where the other person is coming from or does the world only revolve around you? Most of you sound very self-centered.

Older people were taught to be very social when they had company. Their main concern was the comfort of their guests and many from the south were always cooking for their guests to make sure everyone was fed. Anytime I went to visit my grandmother's cousins, I always expected a hot meal to be served to me and anyone I was with so I never ate before I went there and I always went dressed in a way that I could stay comfortable despite where they had their thermostat set. Usually, though, older people have a tendency to keep their places very warm so I dressed in layers and could remove sweaters or jackets if I needed to.

Young people need to stop and realize that older people do have a tendency to ask too much, push too much, want too much at times but their concern is for YOU, not themselves. It isn't any fault of their own, it has alot to do with the changes in their brain and it is something they cannot control ~ probably aren't even aware they are actually doing it.

My SIL's mother got this way when she got older. We were sitting around the table after eating christmas dinner and she told my grandmother and I about someone in her family. Two minutes later she was repeating the story and she did that throughout the afternoon, not remembering she had already told us ~ she just wanted to contribute to the conversation and that was all she could remember at the time. They found out later her brain was shrinking and she wasn't able to think clearly or remember what she had just done 5 seconds before.

I would suggest all young people take the time to learn patience, not something taught much in this fast world today, and remember that someday, this could very well be you in this position. Be observant and learn from the older people, it just might open your eyes to what you will be like some day and you will want others to treat you with love and respect.

No, it isn't easy to deal with people like this so find a way to distract the person who does this to you. When you go to visit, wear a long sleeve sweater over the top of another long sleeve sweater and make sure you wear a camisole and another lightweight top under it. That way you can take off the top sweater and still have enough layered clothing to help keep you warmer. And don't hand the top sweater to her, just take it off and drape it over your lap to help keep your legs warm.

As far as trying to get you to eat dessert, ask if she has a banana, apple or some kind of fruit and when you get it, eat it very slowly because once it's gone, she may try and get you to eat something else.

Think outside the realm of "you" (not pointing fingers to you Maxine, just a general term) and try to realize where the other person is coming from. It will open up a whole new world of learning experiences and prepare you better to deal with others. Hope this helps you in some way.

And remember, patience is a virtue. Unfortunately it is a rare gem today.

God bless you

How about taking the dessert home with you, and then giving the dessert to someone who would appreicate the kind gesture.

As for the sweater explain to her that you are always cold and would rather keep your sweater on.

Some people when they have guests over, want their guests feel welcome into their home, so they tend to repeat theirself until the guest gives in( they may think the guest is being shy) that's why they are persistent. They just want to be a gracious host, as you should deal with it in a kind and gracious manner w/o being rude.

Love her/him for their inperfections. They are most likely old fashioned.

My mom is like this, she means no harm, she wants her guests to feel welcomed and appreicated.

Sounds as if this person is having more problems than are addressed here.

I don't eat dessert, if I don't want it. If asked repeatedly to accept the dessert, I believe it is time to leave the place.

If asked to remove/give up my sweater, I don't give in. I don't let anybody remove anything of mine against my will. If asked repeatedly to remove my sweater, I believe it is time to leave the place.

All this can be done/said friendly and tactfully - one does not need to be rude. In future I would not return to that home but agree to meet that person only at a public and neutral location.

dessert solution = keep insisting youre on a diet and if that dont work try flat out NO I DO NOT WANT ANY DESERT

sweater solution = instead of wearing an over the outfit sweater, wear the sweater as PART of your outfit, in other words if you took it off youd be sitting round in your undergarments

Thank her for the dessert, but explain you can't have any, your allergies prevent it.

As for the sweater, again, thank her kindly, but explain you're alittle cold natured and prefer to keep it on.

Be polite and say something along the lines of "ok thank you for offering but I prefer...." If she persists then you may have to get a bit more forcefull, but be carefull some people have a compulsion to try to please people or they don't realize how many times that they have asked.

Maybe something like:

Thank you, that's very kind. I'm fine at the moment but if I change my mind I will be sure to let you know.

Smile, maintain the eye contact and say it firmly.

Alternatively, if that doesn't work, sit her down and say:

You are a lovely host/friend, but sometimes you tend to repeat yourself and I hope that's not because you're worrying about pleasing me. I would much rather you enjoyed yourself too.

just tell her in a nice way that you are on a diet you dont want to eat any of that but thanks for her offers and tell her that your cold and would like to keep it .

and if she keeps on just try to bring up something new to

talk about and act like you did not here it. :) lol