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Question

say you and husband stopped living together but were still seeing eachother . you want him to come see you and he lives 50 miles away now .. would it be wrong to tell him he cant get his motorcycle lifts when he drives all the way down to see you ( and he needs them to work on the bike) he would have to come back another time ? And if he didnt like that he wouldnt get to see you .

Update:

i didnt move away cause i wanted too it was her choice and its not just lifts its everything still there down to clothes

Anonym · Accepted Answer

dude get a court order to go in there and get your stuff and then while your at it hand her the papers to sign cause she's actin like she's 5

Jenny · Answer

So what you are really doing is driving 50 miles away to work on your bike?

I'm thinking she may be feeling a wee bit bitter. 

Buy new lifts and see her for her. Or don't.

Anonym · Answer

Be straight with him. He might interpret this behavior as you being vindictive or depending on who ended the relationship to start with he may think that you are stringing him until something better comes along. Men so don't think the same way women do so by this type of action he isn't going to see it as sweet that you are ensuring his return visit, he'll see your depriving him of working on his bike.   Sorry i think i got the wrong end of the stick on this one after seeing other responses

Anonym · Answer

She wants you to come down for her and just for her. She is testing you in a way. She wants to know that you care about her enough to drive 50 miles just for her, without expecting to get something for yourself out of it. If you want things to work out between you two, then make two trips!

Anonym · Answer

Well considering that you are no longer living together....you can do as you wish....I couldn't give ultimatums to anybody I don't live with...I personally don't see anything wrong with you wanting to get motorcycle lifts while visiting your wife....

Lizzy · Answer

Try to set a schedule for seeing each other.  That way, she will know that she can count on seeing you on certain days and she will stop making up reasons to get you over to her house.

yeahyeahyeah · Answer

it would be wrong not to let you have the lifts to work on your bike, yes. especially if you are using that bike to see your wife. get the lifts, she'll just have to deal with it.

virginia s · Answer

I think that if you two are just seeing each other that there has to be limits. You are going on with your lives and what is convienent for him isnt always convienent for you. Remember your not telling him no your just rescheduling to what suits you, he's not thinking of you he's just thinking of his Bike.

Dolly J · Answer

Personally, why would she need them?  Sounds like mind games to me.

Anonym · Answer

Sounds like the games my ex plays with me, however, I finally got over him and don't care where the hell he lives.

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