How do I get my 4 year old son to use toilet paper?

It would have been best to tackle this a bit before school starts. You can tell him that in order to go to school he has to be able to wipe himself. Tell him it is an entry requirement.

You can get him some wet wipes with cool characters on the packaging that he can bring with him to school, and a big pack he can use at home. It is much easier for kids to wipe with flushable wet wipes.

He will need to get over his dislike of seeing BM. All the 'big kids' wipe themselves at school, and he has to as well. You may want to warn his teacher about this so he isn't sitting on the toilet for 3 hours tomorrow waiting for someone to come help him wipe.

Hmmm, now there's a problem! Be sure that you inform the care providers that he does have this problem and that you are trying your best to work out this issue. Perhaps they will be understanding, hopefully.

Maybe your son doesn't have the ability yet to understand WHERE he is wiping, [or forgets] is afraid of getting his hands 'dirty' or just wants his mommy. This is very stressful, so you may have to start over again w/his training. Boys can and do take alot of time with toileting. Perhaps you can encourage him by being there when he is just about through and you can remind him 'where' to wipe. Be sure to give some kind of reward for doing it and a bigger reward for doing it himself. [every kid wants rewards!]

Ask your Dr.'s office for any help/advise in this...esp. mention that he has a 'weak stomach' for these things. [Guys usually do have weak stomachs for 'messy things, even grown men.] Don't give up and keep the encouragements for his [and your] success. Good parenting!

Awww..my son who is going to be 4 next month and I go through the same drama. He doesn't like to wipe, when I let him go potty alone and I ask if he wipes he says, "I did" but he doesn't like to flush or wash his hands or really wipe. I still have to do it for him. I don't do it all the time but I am constantly monitoring him to make sure he cleans himself and the potty correctly. I think it's pretty normal for that age to not 'get it' yet. Just keep working with him and I think it will eventually stick.

Kandoo wipes! They have a scent (my son likes the berry scent) and they work real well. Plus they're flushable

Buy premoistened flushable wipes; they work better.

Let him sit there until he does.