how can i help this poor girl ?

Nice to know that you are sensitive for human feelings. You are unable to see your friend sad from the break up. For the kind of situation she is in it is normal for her to feel that she does not want another boy in her life. It is normal because she is going through her pain of seperation, abandonment, and loss. It will take time for her to build trust in another boy. Allow her to heal.

You said you love her, this does not need an answer because love understands everything.

How can you respond to her in love, she needs someone to understand her pain right now, be a good friend and help her walk through the pain, listen to her and empathize with her, help her move on in her life; when she realizes what a good friend you can be, then she may think of having you her permanent friend for life. And love grows in friendship. A good friend can be a good lover!

Remember love has abundant patience! And you have it!

Wait....One more thing, check out if your feelings are love or sympathies, love is too big a word to be understood. Simply said it is a state of being.

The only thing you can do is stick with her as a good friend with broad shoulders to cry on. Do a lot of listening and little talking. She doesn't need advice right now. She needs to cry it out and talk the pain out of her system and a good friend to lean on during this healing process. You will gain a very good and close friend (closer than you were before) that has faith and confidence in you. This could turn into a romance too. Who knows. Either way you will win and so will she.

Try to get her mind of this guy by offering to take her out. If she declines, it's perfectly understandable. She needs time for let her wounds heal. But try to get her to do something entertaining, like going out to dinner with you or seeing a movie. If you love her, then don't give up. Let her know you are there for her, and that you care for her. She's emotional right now, so I wouldn't put too much weight on her shoulders by confessing your love for her. At least not yet. Right now, all you can offer her is a shoulder to cry on. She'll get over him eventually. It's always hard at first. But once you start seeing the signs of her moving on and possibly starting to feel better about herself, then that would be your chance to express to her the way you really feel about her.

Just keep on being her friend...just don't pressure her right now about how you feel..she really wouldn't be ready for that anyways...she IS gonna feel the way she is right now, and will for a some time yet..she thinks she will always feel this way, but time will pass and her feelings about the jerk will change..she's gonna go thru other stages too, like anger and such..but when it all blows over, she will see that you stood by her side, and maybe even realize and see the love you have for her..

Just be there for her as a friend first. If you really do love her, then your friendship should be genuine, and that's what she needs right now. In time, perhaps she'll look at you as more than just a friend, but patience is important. The seeds of friendship you sow now will reap rewards in the long-term. Good luck!

Just be there for her. If you love her, don't tell her your feelings yet. You being her friend when she needed one will be very important to her, and will show her the type of person you are...who knows, may lead to something in the future.

Also, don't try to "fix" her problems if she doesn't ask you too...men always try to do that because it is their nature, but most of the time women just want you to listen to them vent...they usually figure it out on their own eventually.

I mean realisticly you can just be there for her and maybe take her out and have some fun. Let her know that she has friends that care and to forget about the guy. Im a guy and yes some of us are assholes, but there are plenty of good guys. Just take her out and have a good time.

Give her time, time heals all wounds. Be there for her if she wants to talk, even when she's repeating the stories over and over. All you can do is be a good friend.

Awe.....that is so sad. You are so sweet. Bring her flowers, buy her a cool cd, and get her out of the house. Go to the park, zoo, anywhere!! Good luck.

stick with her, be a good shoulder to cry on, be someone she can talk to about it, so basically be a good friend. She will eventually get another boyfriend that she loves.