Mei M

I've found myself in a rather bizarre predicament. I've been on and off FWB with a friend of mine, and he recently asked if I'd like to have a go this weekend. However, I'm allergic to latex and require non-latex condoms, but I'm on birth control that costs me 15/month so I cover my end of fertility. He asked if I could buy the condoms as well. I believe that if he's asking, he should buy--that's like asking someone out to dinner, then asking if they could pay. Am I far off base?

Alright, so I have a co-worker that I've been trying to make friends with, because I enjoy her company. We're both in the same class, and it happens that her ex is a fairly good tutor in the subject I massively, massively suck at. So he's been tutoring both of us, and then when she can't come I go to tutor sessions with him. He's nice, he's congenial, but I'm not interested, and I think he is. Which makes it really bloody awkward. So I asked my friend if I was wrong or making a big deal out of it, since she knows him well, and she was like 'I'm not comfortable talking about that, not to be bitchy" and now I feel really. Really stupid. I want her friendship more, but I don't want her to think that I want her ex, because I've already got someone I'm interested in. I don't know how to rectify the situation, because I feel as if I ask him if he's been hitting on me that'll make things even worse, but I don't want to lead him on and I don't want that attention from him.

Any input? I feel so awkward right now I just want my brain to melt. I absolutely hate the intricate dealings of society, it's so not my strong point.

After a long and tear-filled relationship of 9 months and a friendship of 2 years, after 2 weeks of his-side imposed silence my SO messaged me after I called him telling me that I would be "better off without him". Essentially he chose another girl over me, even after he promised that he'd have everything sorted out by this month when I go up to school for my sophomore year of college.

The problem is that I gave him my mother's silver ring when I visited him last July, and I put it in his ACU's pocket. In a twist of acute irony, my mother found the matching earrings that she planned to give me last Christmas that completed the set the very day today we broke up.

How do I go about requesting the ring back? Is there a waiting period for feelings to tone down a bit? I don't think mail is a good way to transport jewelry, especially precious metals. I don't believe I told him it was real silver... I prolly should go about telling him that.

I don't want any crap about "you shouldn't have given it to him in the first place", it's not the time or place for that right now, and you'll just add to the absolute pile of misery I already am.

There's a conundrum I've always taken as normal, as most people tend to do with slight differences in perception. My left eye tends to give colors a more golden hue, and my right one perceives a more blue-gray hue. It's not drastically different, but I normally notice it if I have one eye blocked off and have been looking through primarily one (such as laying down with one eye obscured by the pillow, and then shifting). Has anybody else noticed it? It's as subtle as blonde hair looking more grey in the right and more golden in the left. Just curious if others have noticed it.

Alright. So my SO went to the ER (we live in different states) because his hips have been bothering him severely. His symptoms are:

-Joint pain, sometimes on the outside, sometimes on the inside front of his hip joint

-Pain when walking or running

-Pain when rotating the hip, such as up, down, around.

-Improves with rest, aggravates quickly with activity

He didn't catch what the ER doctor said, saying something about "ci-something" but he wasn't clear and didn't come back afterward. I don't think it's a SI Joint Injury, because that's towards the upper back of the pelvic girdle. It was also not sciatica. I was thinking osteoarthritis, or rheumatoid arthritis, but none of those descriptions sound familiar to him per what the doctor said (really frustrated that I couldn't be there to decipher the doctor jargon).

Any ideas to what it could be? I need to know what he has so that I can counsel him on what the treatment options are and to know what's going on.

I really don't think it's arthritis because he's 21. He's in the army though and does a lot of physical activity.

I have a necklace that a boy gave me in a previous relationship right before we broke up (heartless, I know D: ). It's a silver-metal looking heart that has a setting right before the V of the heart, and in the setting are 6 stones (small) surrounding 1, all the same size. I would think if it was cubic zirconia, it would practical to just put one gem in there. I'm actually rather reluctant to find out if they -are- diamonds, because I'd feel rather guilty breaking up with him 5 days after the fact (Long distance and unhappiness, not me being a ***** :P ). Any thoughts? I've tried finding it online--no luck, so many others out there.

My boyfriend's health insurance canceled on him and it can't be renewed till October because they didn't accept a legit check from him and therefore considered him skipping a payment (HS companies = gay). Right now, however, he has a sore throat with white spots, and his arms feel funny, like weak and figidity. Doctor time? This will be an expensive visit for him if it's just a viral infection with nothing to be done.

I have severe hereditary migraines that are often menstrual cycle-related or stress related, and sometimes "just because" related. ^^;

I will sometimes have them at a long stretch of time, such as a week, and finally they go away by themselves after a nice dosing of excedrin and imitrex. However, I sometimes hallucinate. I have no auras, no olfactory hallucinations, but I "thought" hallucinate, if that makes any sense.

I woke up on the 5th or so day of my migraines from a nap, and my roommate asked me how I was doing--I replied that "there were chinese words in my stomach making it upset, I need to throw up to make them go away" and went on a rant about these chinese words (I'm taking a chinese class) and how they were interacting with my stomach. I was -really- confused, and this was only after a 1 hour nap. Scared the hell out of her, but I was talking to my boyfriend, who also has migraines but with holes, and he said that doesn't sound normal and that I should go to a neurologist. Before blowing a good 1 grand on our insurance tab, do you guys think this warrants a examination? I've had similar experiences like this, with these thought hallucinations, but I'm not sure if it's normal or not. (I've ranted about not having the correct math formula to take a shower before to my mother, but she didn't think anything of it because I'm weird like that sometimes).

Hey YA, I'm getting my hair cut in an hour and need some opinions on the hair length/style. I want to cut off about 4 inches for the summer, and want a change.

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Any suggestions on layering, etc?

S'okay. I think I have an oral allergy too...

-Bananas

-Walnuts

-Avocados

-Cantalope

-Peanuts (possibly)

-Sunflower seeds

(also skin allergy to latex that involves minor irriation)

Now, I only itch for about 15 minutes afterwards, but the itch has been staying longer and longer, and sometimes my lips get a little tingly as well. Now, I freaking love all those things up there (except cantaloupe, icky), and I don't want to stop eating them. Do you think I have a potential to have an anaphlyatic episode if I keep on eating these foods and sensitizing myself, or if I'll be fine? My throat only gets itchy one in a while during eating the trigger foods. I've noticed this going on for about 5 years now, so I'm not sure.

Sometimes I really, really wish I could, it seems like it's broken. Anyways. This all started about March 8-9, when I noticed I was itching and burning. I've had my fair share of yeast infections, and it didn't have an odor, just alot of itching and discharge. I went and got Monistat 1-day, because I had a trip home the next day and didn't want to deal with creams on a plane and feeling gross. I used it, along with the external cream, for the next week or so and was still feeling irritated, and so a week later after that I went to my campus doctor, and she said I had BV, and put me on antibiotics (metridonazole 500 mg x2 day) for a week. I finished the pack on the 27th.

In addition, I took acidophilis pills to replenish the bacteria so I wouldn't get a yeast infection after the antibiotics, and had my period during the time I was on the antibiotics. I started to take my active pills on my bc after I finished the antibiotics, but then stopped because I had a severe falling out with my boyfriend and didn't want to pay 50 bucks for another pack if I didn't think I was going to use it again. So I had -another- period, and I'm -still- itchy. There's a normal period odor down there, that kind of stinks, but I recognize it as the normal odor down there that forms when I have it and it should be going away as my post-BC spotting stops.

However, I still itch and around my urethra it still aches, and the night before I was in so irritated around my crotch that my feet hurt. I've been tested for chlamydia and gonorrhea, don't have trich or giardia. I also have to drink -alot- of water during the day, because otherwise it hurts to pee (I've also been tested for a UTI.... nothing).

I'm so sick and tired of being constantly irritated down there. I have another appointment with the campus doctor tomorrow, but I'm afraid she's just going to put me on some other useless medicine that won't do crap. T_T

But I'm not legal, I'm 19. I know I can't order, but will they throw a fit if I take a sip of his wine or something? I'm not talking shots here, just a sip or two. I don't know the protocol of what staff are supposed to do if they see it, or if they even care--I didn't when I was a waitress, but I didn't really work at a high-traffic or upscale place. I was thinking this while planning for a date, so, curious about you guy's inputs. I personally think that it wouldn't be a big deal, but I'd rather not take a sip and have people asking me to leave for something so ridiculous. I'm a bit of a wine person, though, and greatly enjoy the taste, because my dad and I have it as a father-daughter activity (one of the sort of few things we have in common...). So I've grown up with it as something normal, but it's a pain in the **** when people get so uppity about small things like wine, especially in Massachusetts.

I'm 19, and I've been looking for more localized forms of BC because most pills make me moody/emotional/give me severe migraines. I really want the Mirena IUD, and know that they will prescribe it to women that haven't had children sometimes, but I want to know if anyone has managed to do so.

I'm not in a stable relationship, but I don't sleep around, either. I have my partners tested beforehand, so I don't worry about STD's and the possibility that Mirena can aggravate them. I only have a history of two sexual partners, the second one I was-will be active with since it's a long distance thing.

I don't want to use the ring, because that has increased vaginal irritation (more so than the IUD) and my vag's is fairly persnickety about what goes inside it (allergic to spermicides.... and latex condoms... you see why one-night stands are improbable).

This is an incredibly long story that's take place over the course of a year and a half, so I'll try to just keep the important bits in.

This guy and I have been talking for almost 2 years, and we meet through one of my ex's. We immediately just hit it off, and for a while online till I came to college we talked to each other every day (this was about 8 months) , and planned to date when I came up here. He's the strong type that will let you go when you want to, and will pull away from you when you start to avoid getting hurt. I become very emotionally attached to him, as he did, even though he has gf--the thing is, they don't really talk in depth about anything, so he feels out of sorts with that and finds it in me. It didn't bother me, but I felt that I might get hurt, so I started dating in my hometown before I went to college and had another long distance relationship with another guy. Of course, Guy 1 didn't like Guy 2, and I eventually just cut him off for 2 months so that I wouldn't hurt him anymore. It didn't work, and I know I had more feelings for Guy 1 than my current, so in order to be fair I broke it off with guy 2.

Skip forward to second semester in January, and Guy 1 and I want to date. Problem is, he has a girlfriend. He tells me that he'll break up with her by Feb 5. He doesn't have his license atm (he's 2 years older than me) and he needs to get it so he doesn't have to rely on people to get around. That deadline passes by, and he promises by the time I get back from spring break, he'll have it done. That passes by, and he promises by the 15th of march. Then by April.

I'm not the jealous type. But eventually, I grew to extremely dislike his girlfriend, and eventually it's consumed me to the point where I don't want to hear her name or see her picture.

With anyone else, I would've dropped them. But he's the first one that's opened up my mind to marriage and children (I've been severely anti-those since a young teenager), the first person I've wholly and truly loved, and he guides me along tough patches in my life. He can't guide me along now, though, because he feels lost as well, and I did something I can't take back--again, like I did when I stopped talking to him after we got in a fight about how my current boyfriend wasn't good for me.

I told him last night that I can't see him anymore until he gets his life in order, which would be a few months, and after a long, horrible day worrying about losing him for a few months, he said, "that's okay". At this point, I was just filled with so much anger at this whole situation and feeling generally malicious that in a thread on 4chan, I joined a drinking thread and said "i had a pretty bad day, got essentially dumped and chosen over another girl" and etc. I used some choice words to describe his gf, and talked about how the whole thing was just bringing me down, and how I should stop talking to him but it was going to be hard.

He found it while browsing /b/.

Of course I wouldn't say on /b/ how much I loved him, because I'd seem like a sap and get torn to threads about being a wimp. But he found it and said he was "speechless", prolly from the amount of hate and the general publicness of it all. I didn't want to take it out on him. I tried to take it out somewhere else, but he still found it. It was so massively and incredibly stupid I just want to hit myself in the face repeatedly till I black out.

I pretty much cried so hard that I threw up last night. I don't want to lose him as a figure in my life. He's someone that you don't find often, and the forces governing whether we'd be able to get together now didn't work out. He's the person I text when I'm bored, when I'm distraught, when I find something interesting that reminds me of him, the person he turns to when he can't figure something out of his own, and turns to comfort, which is very rare for his personality.

I know I've broken the last straw of trust, and it hurts so much I can't even imagine what I've done.

Before I left last night, I said that I was going to bed (the silence on his part was disturbing, and I was incredibly tired). I said that, "my immaturity cannot be fixed by words". I don't know what else to say. I don't want to become another failed love interest in his book, I want to become his good one. I don't think I can achieve that at the moment, or ever, now.

I'm on metridonazole (Flagyl) for a BV infection, and I'm taking 500mg twice a day for 7 days. I take my last pill at 7 a.m in the morning, but I want to go drinking that night with my boyfriend and friends. (In case you didn't know, flagyl + alcohol has a few clinical studies that shows that it converts to acetaldehyde in the liver and makes you flushed, nauseous, dizzy and pukey). I'm thinking that the half life is short and will be over in 12 hours, since I have to take it twice a day, so I should be okay, but I'm not sure, and I don't have quick access to my doctor (I don't want to make another appt just to ask her this question). I won't be drinking -that- much. Also, since you're already reading this and most likely a woman that will use contraception in the future, antibiotics interfere with your birthcontrol. Wait a week after you finish the pills to have unprotected sex. :) I have to, sigh. :(

I have hereditary migraines, and have been prescribed Imitrex, but you can only take it at the beginning as a preventative measure, and so it's useless when I do feel one coming on--I don't get auras so I don't know it's a bad one until I get hit in the head.

I usually use Excedrin, but I've had a consistent migraine since last Thursday--I've popped at least 10 of them like candy, and I still hurt. I have two exams tomorrow. Wtf. Suggestions? I have chamomile tea next to me suggest by a friend, and have popped one pill of excedrin so far (full stomach of soup, toast and miniwheats).

Help. D: D: D:

Alrighty. This was a while back in November, so I'm currently okay.

Around the 3rd of Nov, I stopped my BC because of migraines, and I wasn't sexually active because I was in a long distance relationship until what I presumably thought would be December when I'd see him. Well, surprise, I was able to come during Thanksgiving, and I wanted to have some sexy time, and so I started my pills up again a week and a half beforehand. We had sex (on the pill w/o condoms because I'm allergic to latex and the spermicide, and didn't buy the latex free kin) and I think he came in me once cause it's a fetish of mine. Nonetheless, since I started it in the middle of my cycle, it delayed my period about 2 weeks. Come December, about 2 weeks after I had sex, I had a period that was about a day later than normal (3rd placebo pill into the pack), and it woke me up around 3 am, and I was cramping decently. I went to the bathroom and was greeted with a lot of blood and a lump of greyish-white tissue with clots on it, about 1 inch by 2 inches. Promptly scared the living **** out of me. My cycle was perfectly fine for the next few days, and I talked to my campus doctor about it, and she hadn't a clue. What do you think, guys?

It's unfortunate, seeing as I have tocophobia (extreme fear of pregnancy to the point that where I'm two days late I have fits of nervousness). I'm getting better at it, but yeah. Yeah for being afraid of sex. Oh, and btw, I'm 20, so don't give me the Yahoo! answerers wrath of judgment that we give to the underaged sexteens.