Mama

When I try to talk to my BF about things he does that hurts me, like lying to me or constantly breaking promises to me, or constantly throwing me out of the house without telling me why, paying back money he owes me, he tells me that there is nothing to talk about or hangs up on me or says that it was in the past and thats that etc. So these hurts dont get resolved.

He always finds a way of avoiding it and refuses to listen to me, but hes happy to talk about other things. I dont know what to do about it. I want to sort this out but everytime I try I get no where with him.

Ive been in a relationship with this guy for about 4yrs off and on. We have problems like everybody does, but we handle our problems very differently. Im the type who would reflect on what happened, see what went wrong and what could have been done differently. So basically learn form them so that next time it happens again it wont be so bad. He on the other hand hanldes problems very differently. When I try to talk to him about problems in our relationship he hangs up the phone on me, tells me its in the past and theres no point in talking about it, says theres nothing to talk about, tells me he wants to talk face to face not on the phone (he lives about 4hours drive from me) or tells me that I go on. He especially acts this way when I want to talk to him about problems hes caused in our relationship even though hes said to me we have to learn to talk about our problems. And when we do talk its usually about less important things. I believe that for us to be a happy couple we need to