coolgal082004

Even when I had virgin hair (no heat, no hair dyes, etc), my hair was always super frizzy and extremely puffy. It was never straight, curly, or wavy. It's just all over the place. It's really thick and I have A LOT of it.

Now, I don't mind that I have a lot (it looks nice when I do curl or straighten it nowadays). All I'm saying is that I don't want to do all that high maintenance stuff often anymore. Since I have a lot, it takes a loooong time, besides the fact that I'm mistreating it.

I do want it to look nice... naturally if possible.

Does anyone have this problem to which they've found a solution?

My hair is below the chest (can't pull off short hair even when straightened and cut thinned out, too much hair), I do brush it often, idk what to do anymore.

I wanna lose a lot of weight for Halloween, 10 lbs minimum. I recently looked into this diet. Consists of a fat burning soup and a 7 day specific diet. Supposed to help you lose 10-17 lbs in a week. However, it seems kind of depriving and I don't want my body to go into starvation mode, making me gain back the weight I lost and more just as quickly.

I was wondering, for those who have heard about it, will I still lose a lot of weight if I integrate only the soup to the regular food pyramid? I plan on exercising daily too, is it possible to lose those 10 by oct 31?

I'm 5'6", 145 lbs, medium frame..

I was in a long term relationship of 4 1/2 years that ended in april because he had left me for someone else. I was in depression and had no interest with anyone. I was getting out of depression and trying to stop my medication around the time I met someone in august at a party. We had a huge connection ( I think it's what people confuse with love at first sight) and he asked me out and we started dating 3 days later. He turned out to be one of the best people I've ever met, but it started off very rushed in my opinion. He wanted to see me everyday so I took that effort with him. He's already mentioned marriage when he graduates in 2 years and he wants me to move in with him in february when he gets his own place (we would be 6 months then if we stay together). We have been dating 4 months now and he recently started acting pretty distant. I don't know if it's because we rushed things or because of what happened 4 days ago when it started. What happened was that I went to planned parenthood to get tested and for birth control pills and he went with me and when I told him I came out clean, he was upset with me because he thought I was lying. See... I had something with a friend of his in the past but he doesn't take my word for it that I didn't sleep with him and his friend has herpes or something. I've asked him 3 times these past few days if something is bothering him but he says "no". However, I can see him making efforts by calling me and saying he wants to see and be with me, but when I'm physically there with him, he's distant. My question is:

Can a rushed relationship be saved and how?

Why is he being distant? Is it the rushedness of the relationship or is he keeping his feelings to himself as to not get hurt?

How can I take this relationship slower if it's already this far?

I really like him and I know he does also by his actions. I don't believe feelings go away one day to the next. I want to know what measures to take to ensure a long relationship.

I've been getting my period every 2 weeks for the past 3 times. I've had a broken condom incident twice with my current boyfriend so I decided to take an emergency contraception called Glanique. I took one 3 weeks ago and before that it had been a month that I took it. Being an emergency contraceptive, I didn't think much on my period.. but it says that my period should come the day expected so I'm started to get concerned especially cause I already got my period 3 times on times when I shouldn't. This is besides the fact I was having trouble getting wet for the past 2 months.. and well, now it hurts to have sex, it was hurting to pee and to even clean, and yesterday I noticed my downstairs was red and itchy and peeling like a rash. Idk why I have reoccuring yeast infections, but I never had an infection in the external vaginal area... I've been wanting to go to the gyn, but my mom hasn't taken the time to take me since she's always busy (she won't let me go without her and I need her money to go in the first place) and I'm dying to know wtf is going on with me :( I feel so unsexy and I've been avoiding sex and my boyfriend is getting a little desperate as well as I... I was sick also and was taking penicillin for 5 days. I stopped taking that last thursday.

There are times when I have trouble removing my tampon.. there's like a flap of skin around it and it hurts! What could it be? I'm not a virgin so I'd figured that it couldn't be a septic hymen, shouldn't it be completely torn? Not that I knew what kind of hymen I had as a virgin anyway...

Around april my bf of 4 and a half years left me for someone else. He was overly jealous and possessive in our relationship which would really stress me. He messed with my head and when he left me he gave me depression and a lot of anxiety. Although I feel a lot better, I still have to take medication.

In August I got a new bf, but for some reason, I get jealous. I've never been a jealous person before but for some reason any little thing gets me jealous. And it's not like he has gal friends that I know about, I just am. The thing about me is that even though I never say anything when I'm angry or jealous, I stay really quiet.. reflecting on my thoughts and trying to control what I am feeling. However, since I'm being quiet, he has some sixth sense or something on how I am feeling. He can also give a why I am feeling such way, but he doesn't say anything. And he doesn't try to make me feel better, he just lets me go on my own mind trip and is fine with it. He himself admits being a little jealous, but he doesn't show it either.

Yesterday when he picked me up, I noticed letters on his knuckles. CBAV. When I was younger, I used to write someone's four initials on my knuckles when I really liked them. He's right handed, but the letters were on his right hand. I asked him nicely about it, but he pushed his hand away saying "it's nothing, it's an alien language. Why you tripping?" and I really wasn't but him saying what he said and not explaining what it was.. was what made me trip. He said it all happily by the way... anyway, I asked my cousin to investigate similar initials on his fb friends but she found nothing. Does anyone know if there's some company with those initials?

Anyway, wayyyy later at night, I wrote four initials on my left hand and when he asked me about it, I said it was an alien language. I didn't bother seeing his reaction, however I reallllyyyyy regret doing that. I feel like I'm messing this up and I really need advice as to how to make him to continue falling for me. I really like him and I feel he's a keeper in comparison to other a holes I tend to have fallen for in the past. He's 19 and I'm 21. I had forgotten how it is to act when I'm barely dating someone, since I had been in a relationship for so long....

I'm not a cheater, however, I have a lot of people that like me and.. well, could the knowledge of knowing how easy it is to cheat contribute to my jealousy?? I really need and would appreciate any advice...

Okay, so I (21) met this guy (22) last monday and he randomly asked me out last thursday. I have him for summer II college class. It all happened so fast!! It's his fault lmao Anyway, he treats me extremely special, more than any of my other bf's I've had. But I've noticed that it's only when we're alone. He says he likes being around me because I calm him down since he's always accelerated having to do something. Something I find odd though is that you can tell hardcore that he's the jealous type lol he doesn't know how to hide it and it's funny cause.. well, we just met and stuff....

When we're around our classmates though, he acts like we're not dating...but on break he'll sometimes wonder off alone together with me... and we'll hang for a bit after class for a cruise but after class today he took off in a hurry, not really saying goodbye, just telling me he had to go.

I don't think about it much, since we've been dating a mere 5 days so far, but I'm just wondering.... what's up with him? We connect so well together but he's different around people. I'm barely starting to like him and well, I don't know whether to waste my time or not. Cause in all due honesty, I forgot how relationships start off. I haven't been in a new relationship in years. All I know is to be myself but my point is, I wanna know:

1. Whether he's treating me soooo good cause he wants sex (which unfortunately happened very fast too)

Or

2. It's too early in the relationship for his actions of his now to actually matter? <which was what I've been thinking but his actions today made me reconsider.

I've been f buddies with someone for the past year and a half. Nothing ever happened between us, I'd say for a good while you could tell he really liked me though. Every time he'd get close to me emotionally, he'd ignore me a couple weeks or start being a little cold. The attachment is not as strong as it used to be, but I'm just wondering, will I ever have a chance of being more? He's the kind of guy that "doesn't believe in relationships". I guess you can say he's a man w**re. He never tells me about other girls though and he's shown jealousy before but he always tries to cover it when he does. I've had people tell me he just plain doesn't care and just wants to keep me around, and I've had others tell me he just doesn't want to "fall for me". I've liked him too long, I'm getting a little desperate..

My boyfriend of 4 1/2 years broke up with me mid april. I was the one that was mistreated and left like an old rag doll. I'm on a spiral going down. He's so happy and so much better without me. Flirting with a bunch of girls. He ignores me, he says he was going to be there for me and he's not. He says for me to wait his call, but there are no calls....I've lost all contact for the past week when I was used to him there most of everyday. Each day that passes by, I feel worse. My grades are dropping and I don't concentrate when I'm at work. I'm thinking of quitting soon. I've tried partying, flirting, clubbing, sex, and never being alone and have spent all my saved up money for vegas for my upcoming 21st bday. I don't show sadness, try to only project me being happy in case he's keeping an eye out (which I doubt) but inside I feel like I'm dying. I want this pain to go away, where do I start? I've tried everything positive but I'm still going down... I always put his feelings first and he never took consideration of mine, especially now. That cold hearted monster :'(

My boyfriend of 4 1/2 years broke up with me 4 days ago. He's being over revengeful, spiteful, hateful, and extremely cold towards me despite us just breaking up. I really don't deserve this behavior and want to be the same towards him. Also, I have few limited friends due to his over jealousy and being with him so long. So:

1. I want friends. People I can keep myself distracted with to get over him and to be better socially. How do I make them?

2. I want a rebound. Don't say it won't work, tell me how to make one. Where do I start?

3. The most important, how can I be cold towards my ex? I don't deserve his mistreatment and being an infp, I find it really difficult to be this way when I care so much about every single person, epecially him cause I love him so much. I'm not revengeful and what not and I'm always trying to fix every single relationship problem right away.. but he's not willing to fix this along with me at all so my work is pointless. The main thing of me wanting to be this way towards him is cause I don't wanna feel any more pain. So... any main points of what to do?

I'm the kind of girl that doesn't like a guy a friend once liked. Not just for best friends, friends too. It's just not in me, a liking simply never grows even if I tried. Same goes for my ex's friends. I respect my ex boyfriends enough to not like their friends or consider it even. I also respect a couple, as sh***y as a relationship may be, I will show no interest and leave them be.

Here's one situation. My boyfriend (21) and I (20) are on a break recently and there's this girl that knows we've been together 4 years. She's 21 too and has two kids and she has the nerve to try and take him from me. She flirts her a** off with him and he did the same, inviting her to smoke with him etc. I freakin hate her right now because I would never do that to anyone. She's a slight reason to our break right now. Ok, so even though I wouldn't do that to anyone, it's more understandable. She doesn't know me therefore has no reason to care right? As sh***y as it is, understandable.

Here's the big deal. I've been feeling cra**y to the extreme with my boyfriend situation..so I constantly need to be with people to feel better. I really don't have friends for being in a relationship so long. The few friends I have are unavailable so I decide to hang out with my boyfriend's best friend. He became a close friend seeing as though I know him as long as my boyfriend and he's like, always around. He's 24 and he dated my best friend (29) for a while. He was her first true love just as she was his. It didn't work out, and she has a boyfriend and everything by now too. Thing is, this guy's my best friend's ex and my boyfriend's bestie. I wouldn't imagine anything with him at all and I trust him. And last night he tried having sex with me! wtf... and this isn't the first time. I had another ex boyfriend's bestie try the same.

I've also had another bestie (21) have sex with my bestie who's 29's ex boyfriend. Not this one, another one. They're just alright friends though...

Like, wtf? My question is, are people really that sh***y? Why do I feel like I'm the only one who has respect for all these relationships to not put myself in those kinds of situations? Like, I know most don't think like this, but why would you try having sex with someone your friend liked and might still like so much? Or in this case, have sex with your best friend's girl...

my boyfriend got locked up last night (sunday) cause of me. What time do they let people go? He has not answered texts and I can't use my phone cause it's out of minutes... and I fear for him. And I fear for the relationship :(

I had a dream I was singing in a group as an ensemble. Then out of nowhere I find myself at my grandma's house. I step into my mother's old room to find that my best friend is sleeping with a guy I know from high school which was totally random. They look peaceful, so I slowly close the door. My 4 yr old brother sleepily walks out of my grandma's room right across the hall. I hold him and he falls asleep in my arms and then I look at the front door. There is a grey wolf staring at me angrily and starts to come in the house. I run back into my mother's room and place him next to my best friend. They're all still sleeping. Then my pomeranian light brown dog runs out of under my mother's old bed and runs through the front door outside. The wolf started to chase it, so I grab a random frying pan and start chasing after the wolf to defend my dog and loved ones. As my dog is frozen in place in the yard with big cartoon eyes as the wolf is about to get it, I hit the wolf twice, grab my dog and run inside with her. I place her in my mom's room close the door. Then I look at the front door again and the wolf is just angrily staring at me agin. The only difference this time was that the door wasn't opened, just had a gap that the wolf could enter through.

Sooo.... what is my subconscious trying to tell me??

Ok, so my "best friend" texted me yesterday asking for the light bill (my part of rent) and here's the deal:

1. I haven't really seen or talked to her in 2 months because she's alll about her bf now.

2. She's charging me a late bill. Why not let me know when it gets there? This is the 3rd time she does that.

3. Bill is wayyyy more than our usual. Is she like, trying to rip me off?

4. I haven't slept there in months cause she moved in her boyfriend and kicked me out of the bed and I had nowhere to sleep so I'd be driving to all these friend's houses to stay with them everyyyyday. And no, the couch is highly uncomfortable, only my torso fit there. *FYI her bf don't pay anything*

5. She THEN moved in her brother. So the few times I would sleep in the living room I could kiss goodbye cause he'd stay there.

6. I'd always clean and buy food being the neat freak I was.... and I wouldn't get to eat much cause it'd be all gone by 2 days. And no one would ever clean. Just me, and sometimes her bf. But I'm literally the only one cleaning up after herself.

7. Her brother told me he really liked me. Which was highly awkward. Things felt so strange against me coming from everyone so early february I moved out cause I felt unwelcomed.

8. I payed february despite me leaving early. Early march I told her I had moved back to my mom's.

9. I've loaned her tons of money. She owes me in the hundreds. All forgotten cause I never charged her. I just felt the simple joy of helping a friend. The very few times I've asked for money were like 5-10 dollars which I would pay by the next day or two cause she wouldn't stop charging me.

HOWEVER, I did leave my stuff behind. I don't use it, so I never bothered getting it. So I'm guessing that's why she's charging me. But does she even have a right? I haven't even been there at all this month. They think they can use all the light they want and charge me! But I did leave my stuff behind so idk if I should pay. It's not the money that's really important to me, it's just that I'm tired of being taken advantage of. She's not being a true friend and hasn't been for the longest time. And it's not that I'm stupid for keeping this friendship, I'm just too nice and care for everybody :/

I've been seeing this guy for a year. However, he doesn't want commitment. I asked him when the last time he's had a girlfriend was and he replied "I've had high school sweethearts" The guy's 26 -.- I also knew of this girl he had an open relationship with for five years. They weren't serious or considered dating and they would have sex with others. I guess you can say best f*** buddies and right now she's dating one of his old roommates.

Sometimes he really seems to like me, other times he avoids even looking at me, he constantly ignores me, and other times he does romantic things with that one look in his eye. I never imagined I'd fall for someone like him (I think he's a swinger or something?). And he's really hurting my feelings. Is it possible to ignore someone because your non commitment is more important than your feelings for them? Or does he just plain wants to get rid of me?

I've tried asking him questions, but he always goes around it. He never tells me anything. I don't care how hurtful it will be, I just want to know whether to move on or not. And sometimes I just want to forget him and ignore him, but it's hard :(

Point is, what do I do? Should I give him a reason for my leaving, just leave, or tell him EVERYTHING I've been thinking and make him choose for me. Cause I'm emotionally tired of waiting. Also, why do you think he does this?

What would be the fill in this blank? And why? I'm curious. We all know the reason for women liking bad boys, but what about men to whatever it is they tend to fall for.

*If you don't want to read the whole thing, just know I need psychological tricks to get a guy to stop ignoring every now and then and show he cares. Also know he's highly intelligent and has turn the tables on me most times*

ok, so I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years. I continue being his friend and started seeing someone new in the process. I've been seeing the new person a year now. However, I'm trying to get him to take me more seriously! So I figured if I took measures to do so without mention of them, I was hoping he'd notice. I've stopped being flirty with other boys and have dedicated myself to only being with the new guy. I also stopped talking to my ex as a friend, seeing as though things didn't change much since he's been in love with me this whole time. I'm usually the heartbroken, including with the same ex cause he used to be (not anymore though) a big fat a**hole. I figured I'd hurt him less if we stopped talking completely as well. Nonetheless, it's heartbreaking to me to be the heartbreaker, something I've never done. However, I have been going through so much nowadays, no not relationship wise, and my friends are limited and not really giving me the time I needed cause they've got their own important stuff to do. So I really haven't hung out with anyone, maybe like once a week for like 2-3 hrs. I'm a party animal that hasn't partied in weeks, so I'm pretty... you know sad or whatever. It hardly happens but it's happening and my ex has always been there. I made the mistake of hanging out with him. Nothing happened other than a few kisses.... cause I really have been with just the new guy for a LONG while....BUT we went to a red box to rent some movies, my ex driving my car... and as we were driving off, the new guy I'm really into saw us together. I don't think he's aware that was my ex, but he was aware that my ex was calling me like crazy a week before that happened (ex found out about the new guy finally). The new guy texted me right afterwards all nonchalantly and was "curious who I was watching movies with" with a wink in the text like he doesn't even care grrrr... And just the week before I was told him he was my only one at the moment while being kinda passionate....and I don't wanna seem like a liar, cause I don't lie to him ever.

Perhaps he put two and two together but I was really getting somewhere finally and now he's not texting or calling at all! I tried hanging out once and was indirectly rejected to hang out. It seems that every time he gets closer to me, he ignores me couple days or weeks before talking to me again.Now not only was he getting closer, he saw me with my ex. So he's ignoring me, and I freakin hate that s**t cause it's pointless in my view..

I need psychological tricks into making him crazy about me. Well, not crazy, I don't want someone glued to me, just really like me and make me know it. What do I have to do to get some affection from hiiiimmm! Like for realz, I don't even ask for much or even a relationship. I just like knowing I'm the favorite and need reassurance and affection. I'm not needy, TRUST me on that, he's just that confusing!! :(

I've ignored him too (weeks at that), seem like I don't care, I've tried giving him just a little more affection, I've done about everything! He's been really into me, and he's cared less. He's highly intelligent (something that's always been a huge turn on to me) in silent ways as well... so I'm guessing this is all games...?? I can figure out most people, but this new guy is an oddball and really interesting to me to figure out and I guess that's one of the things that has kept me around so long. However, I wanna reach his level of thinking! I feel left behind, again, cause I'm not into mind games. I've had other people try to figure him out and always get different answers or an "I don't know" from someone wayyyyy better at figuring out than I am. I'm 20 and everyone says I act like a mid20 year old and he's 26 so I don't know if age is the issue. He's quite, the hipster I suppose you can call him that.

But again, need advice on the psychological tricks. I don't know what to do! I want to be known as a girl he's interested in and not a friend that people aren't aware of her existence in his life.

I've had high fever and night sweats past week. Horribly fatigued, one night I couldn't even breathe and I couldn't walk. My groin lymph nodes are swollen hugely, nonmovable, are hard, and painful for the past two. I went to planned Parenthood and was told I had a uti and came out hiv negative . However, my uti is small and i would think my really bad symptoms are too much for it? Either way, the clinitian says uti's can cause swollen lymph nodes. However around a month ago, I had a sexual encounter with some guy. I noticed that after a minute of sex, he put on a new condom. I didn't think much of it. We used the second condom properly and he did ***. He called me in the morning asking if i was std free saying he was paranoid about that stuff. I told him i was and that was the end of that. During the end of the day before bed i went to the bathroom and out slipped the first condom. His condom was in me all day! It was a month ago so my question is, can I get hiv even if we didn't use that condom too long? Cause I know hiv takes a while to show up and I'm scared I have it..

I like cooking, but hardly take time to do so. I've been seeing someone for the past year but never cooked for him. However, now we act like a couple being so long together and I think it's time I cooked for kicks. I want to impress him cause I noticed he's really into that. My specialty is pastas, but that's too simple. I would like to cook something at a harder level. Any advice on a 3course meal? Thanks :)

I bought a 160gb black ipod classic and the right side of the touch circle is slightly lifted. Did all of yours come like that? Cause I want to return it but if they're all like that then it's kind of pointless... I used to have an ipod nano but it didn't have that problem.