Inthemiddle

I've been with my bf for over 3 years and will be moving away for 1 year for job related reasons. I am non-jewish and he is jewish. When we started dating in school, he said religion was never a big issue for him. The only Jewish thing he does is not eat pork, however, a week before I am moving away he tells me he's not sure if he can handle a long distance relationship because he wants to be around me all the time, and obviously this won't be the case when I'm gone. I will not be within driving distance, I'll be 2 states over and I figured we could alternate flying to see each other every couple months. He said that me leaving has made him think about other things, and now he's not sure if he wants to raise a Jewish famiy and possibly be with someone Jewish! this is the first time I have heard him say these things to be, pretty much a few days before I am going to move...he said he is willing to try long distance, but he doesn't know when he'll figure out what he wants in terms of religion in the next few days, that it is something that over time i guess he will figure out. He said he is just freaking out that I'm gonna be gone soon and he just doesn't know what he wants. That he is very confused about things. His family is more religious than him, and a family member (a fairly religious one) mentioned something about him being with someone jewish, but he said he doesn't let other people influence him, he'll do what he wants... My question is, do I just end things now because I could give it full effort only to be dumped in the future because I'm not jewish, or do i try and just hope that he realizes being with someone jewish is not as important as being with me....

I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years, but I don't feel like I can completely trust him. A while ago, I looked at the pictures he had on his computer and I came across a lot of pictures of him and his ex's. Some of which are him kissing them on the check, them out at different places, her on his bed in her pjs, etc. I asked him about this and he said he could understand me being upset with some pictuers, but that they were apart of his life at one point. Months later, I looked at his pictures again, to see if he ever did anything about them. I have a feeling he moved them to another folder so I couldn't see them, but he still had pictures of them, but not as many. This time I discovered a video of them kissing and another picture of her butt (she was clothed though). This really pisses me off. A while ago, probably around the time I saw the pictures, I looked at his internet history to see what he does on the computer because he tells me he never does anything. And I saw that he looked up his ex girlfriends. I was like, what the hell. He said he just wanted to know what they were up to. He also goes on his facebook and myspace accounts and I saw in the history, that he mainly goes to pages of girls and looks at their pictures. I asked him about that too and he said yeah, he looks at pictures of girls he thinks are attractive but he doesn't want to do anything with them. He used to have a really big problem looking at girls when we were out, checking them all out, up and down. I even broke up with him over it and he said he would stop so we got back together. Since then he's been better, but there is a feeling I have that I can't trust him. I find that I want to look through his internet history to see what he's doing, what girls he's looking at. When we're together, I feel like he cares about me, but I feel like he has this secret side to him when we're not together, and I don't feel like I can really trust him. Maybe all the things I have been through with him have put me on edge a lot. Am I just insecure? Or is he doing things he shouldn't be? I don't think I can continue a relationship with him if I don't completely trust him.

Today I was on my boyfriend's computer and I happened to notice he has been visiting some porn sites. This is not a surprise to me as he openly tells me he looks at porn. What bothered me, however, is that he was looking at porn that involved incest. Is this a cause for concern? Should I bring it up or just let it go?

my boyfriend has pictures of his ex's on his computer. he showed me a few of the pics just to show me what they looked like. when i looked thru some of the other pics while he was reading i saw some pics of him kissing them, them kissing him, them kinda making out, her posing on his bed, etc...i think a normal pic of them is normal, but pictures of them kissing and what not i think he shouldn't really have anymore, so when i saw them i was getting annoyed wondering why he would still have pictures like that...what do you think? should i be upset?

my bf also has a lot of pictures of his ex gf's on his computer, they are in different folders and everything. he was showing me some of their pictures, one of him kssing her cheek, one was of his ex, a kinda funny picture to him i guess, and he was like, i really like that picture...he says he has them bc its a part of his life. he also said how he kinda wished he still talked to his ex gfs..not for anything romantic, just to see how they are doing because they were apart of his life at one point. he said if we were ever not together he would hope i would keep pictures of him..i don't kow how i feel about this, it's a little unsettling. i kinda feel like he hasn't gotten over them, or maybe he has, thats why he's showing and telling me that stuff?

I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and he has told me he loves me. There is something that keeps bugging me, whenever a girl walks by in a skirt, dress or shorts, he has to check her out. Sometimes he'll look multiple times. He says it doesn't mean anything. He has tried to do it less and i can see him sometimes look at me out of the corner of his eye when a girl walks by to see if i'm looking at him so he can look or not. he says he's just thinking, nice legs, or nice butt, but nothing more. but i think it's rude to do that in front of me. it's not just one or two girls, it's practically every girl and that's what annoys me. it is so unattractive to me that i sometimes feel like i don't wanna be with him anymore bc of it. we have had many talks and altho it's less, he still does a lot. when he looks many times, i feel like it's more than just simply looking and i feel dumb sitting there with his attention focused on other girls while i'm right there. what do you think?