Jzoe

I find it particularly difficult to keep my voice down when when the conserns and opinions I've voiced are refuted, perverted and undermined as soon as I voice them.

Any advice on how to keep my head on in a frustrating discussion about a real problem?

Ever since I got of school and he’s retired, he’s had all the time in the world, but spends it puttig people down, being picky or off doing who-knows-what with who-knows-who.

My mom is the only one helping me get through life, and while there are finacial benefits to having a retired dad, my mom’s the one helping me make good decisions on college, driving, and actually teaching me about life and supporting/advising my ideas and decisions.

Everytime I try to talk to my dad about a problem I have with him, he says I’m talkig too much even if it’s just a few sentences. When he tell me to do one thing, and I do it, the still punishes me for not doing something else he didn’t say he wanted me to do.

He keeps saying Im old enough to make decisions, but trashes my room And doesn’t let me have fun if my bed isnt made the way he wants it to be made.

It’s unerving because i don’t have a job and am still working on getting my license and am waiting to go to college in the Fall and my Mom is gone to work most of the time. My brother kinda sucks, and my sister moved out a while ago.

Whenever I have an emotional issue, my dad insists he couldn’t care less, but plays victim of emotional neglect because I don’t give him hugs and don’t say I love him anymore. And I kinda don’t. How am I supposed to deal with this dude without giving him a reason to call me a spoiled brat?

We used to get along but now he’s a major stressor.