Anglophile

I'm 27 and have been feeling like this for years. I've never been out of work or had a difficult childhood but I feel like I'm not a part of society. I feel lost, alone and like no one cares about me. I know there are people out there who do care about me but I feel that's not enough. I sometimes take long walks in the country to try and perk myself up a bit or to make sense out of life but it never works or if it does it only lasts for an hour or so. I'm an overly sensitive guy and never watch or read the news for this reason and things in which normal people would find is just a low mood is deep feeling of sadness or grief. I've got all the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder but am I just self-diagnosing? I've lost a lot if people in my life due to my ever-changing moods and constant pessimism. Anyway I just need to vent and tell people how I feel because I'm at a very low point.

I don't know why but I find it extremely difficult showing or feeling any emotions towards people. I could be watching a tv show about a person who has lost a loved one and just feel nothing, not even a slight feeling of emotion. Whenever I watch romance movies I feel nothing too. Yet I see or hear animal cruelty and I get so angry and emotional. I'm proud the fact I love animals and care for them so much but why can't I do the same for humans? it's like I'm a robot or something.

This is something I've been dealing with for the past year! What makes it more difficult is that this guy is my future brother in law. I'm a gay man and when this guy that I love started working at my place I started developing feelings towards him unlike any I've ever felt in my entire life (I'm 25) however he met my brother (who is also gay) on a night out and they have hit it off ever since and have been in a loving, committed relationship for the past 7 months. How do I move on from this as I see this guy every week so I can't ignore him!! HELP!!!!

I am a 25 year old gay guy and I've been having really strong feelings for this other guy (Craig) for nearly a year now but there's a problem, this guy I think I'm in love with is actually in love with my brother (Ryan) who is also gay. They have been in a serious relationship now for the past 9 months or so and even though it's getting easier I can't help but feel strongly towered Craig. I care too much for him and I'm unsure if I'm confusing a true friendship with love. He's caring, kind, loyal, always there for me no matter what and him being nice to me is actually making me fall for him. They both are aware of my feelings but I said I'm over it all now as it's gone on for so long but deep down my feelings for Craig are still there. Sometimes when I'm down or depressed all I want is for him to hug me and tell me that everythings going to be alright. I'm always angry with him all the time and stress at him for things that wouldn't usually affect me. What's happening to me? Am I a psycho?

I have many different types of friends. For example, I have friends I don't see regularly but when we meet up we have a laugh, I have friends on facebook I talk to every now and again but rarely see but the main reason I'm asking this question is because there is this guy who I care deeply about, more than I've ever felt before for an individual. He makes me laugh, he's always there for me no matter what, we talk about deep issues etc but I'm not sure whether it's a true friendship or whether I'm in love with him. So I'd like to know what the true meaning of friendship is and how would I know if I'm confusing a true friendship with love?

The only reason I ask is because I loved history at school, it was my favourite subject but I don't remember ever being taught about the American Revolution even though the British Empire was a big part of our curriculum. Plus I've heard about 55% of the British population are unaware that Britain once ruled America. Is this something we should be taught in schools and are Americans surprised by this?

I think I am in love with this guy, the only problem is he is in a relationship with my brother. I am also gay and I have liked him for about 5 months now and my feelings have got stronger and stronger towards him to the point where I believe I will do anything for him, I cry myself to sleep every night and have even considered suicide! I am seeing a therapist and have even signed up for life coaching but I don't know what else to do, my feelings are getting worse! They both know how I feel and and have said they will support me as much as they can, however, I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. People say that when you're in love, everything else seems to fall into place but because mine is unrequited love everything seems to be a problem, even down to my job. I have friends telling me that me and this guy have a great friendship and that I shouldn't jeopardize that and they are right but how can I have a relationship with this guy if our feelings for each other aren't mutual i.e. I feel more for him than he does for me. I really need some advice as I feel I'm at my last straw.....Please HELP!!!!!

I am a 25 year old gay guy and there is this guy who I have worked with for the past 5 months, I don't know whether I am in love with him or just have very strong feelings towards him. This is the story: When he started work I wasn't really interested in him that much although I did find him quite attractive. A few weeks past and we started talking and before I knew it I started to really like him - he seemed to me like the perfect guy - always smiling, laughing, loyal, sensitive, honest amongst other attributes. At this moment in my life I wasn't sure if I was ready to commit to a relationship as I have always help up this barrier and too scared to show my feelings to anyone but I felt so strongly about this guy that I let down my barrier but was still too scared to ask him out until one night when we arranged to meet up with a few friends. Now this is where my problems really started!!!! My brother who is also gay decided to invite himself out this particular night and I have no problems with him hanging out with my friends but when he and the guy I liked met up they hit it off and have been in a serious relationship for the past 2 months now - so serious that they have moved in together and gone away on holiday already. Now I am happy that they are happy but I am starting to feel really down about everything now and again and my feelings towards this guy have become stronger to the point where I feel I am head over heels in love! I have never been in love so not sure of the feeling but all I can say is that I crave to spend time with him and whenever we talk I just have this big smile on my face and I get goosebumps and butterflies in my stomach whenever we meet up. I have explained this to him and he seems fine with it and said that he will try and help me to get over him but how can I really get over him??? Am I actually in love with him because if so then he is my first love and it's pretty sad to tell people that my first love was an unrequited love! Even though I have feelings like this we are really good friends and he has made it very clear that he never wants my feelings to get in the way of our friendship because these feelings aside we are actually really good friends. This is also what I dont understand - he is the type of friend I have been craving for my whole life - I have not friend like him and he is the only friend I can depend on at the moment so am I just confusing love with a very strong relationship purely because I have never experienced a friendship on this level. Any comments welcome as long as they're understanding and not just 'grow up' answers. Thank you for reading this far :)

There is this guy who I work with and we have become really good friends. He makes me laugh and he is so gorgeous and I think I may have fell head over heals in love with this guy! I have never been in love so I don't know what the feeling is like but I look forward to seeing him at work and if he doesn't arrange to meet at the weekend I think he doesn't like my company. Anyway that's another story but the reason I am on here is because I introduced my brother who is also gay to him and now they have hit it off and are in a relationship! I feel it's my fault for introducing them to each other but on the other hand I am happy that they are happy. It's very uncomfortable for me now because when I see them together I don't know where to look and I think I am starting to become envious of them. I also feel like I am interrupting in 'there time' if you know what I mean and I never get time with my friend as they are always together! Sometimes I wish I didn't have a gay brother as I feel that he takes all the guys that I like which is understandable I suppose seeing as he is the slimmer more good looking one :(

How do I deal with this situation? I have already told my brother about this but didn't tell him about the love part as I don't want to ruin his happiness. Should I distance myself from my friend which could be difficult seeing as I work with him? OMG I am such a mess - Help!!!!!

For as long as I can remember, I have felt no emotion whatsoever. I haven't shed a single tear or even felt like it for about 10 years and people's actions never seem to affect me. I just seem to pld along in life like my job is ok, my social life is ok and my life is ok but I never seem to be very happy or very sad. I have even had people physically and mentally hurt (or try to) me and they have never succeeded. I watch comedic TV and never laugh so what's wrong with me? Am I not human? Because of this I know I will never have a relationship or have strong personal bonds with people

I've been hearing a lot about anti-British sentiment in the US because of the problems with BP. I just want answer and no xenophobic, arrogant ones

I want to know office fart stories of when guys have farted in work on a chair in an office suit

I don't agree with all that us Brits did to the world, however, I can't help but wonder what the world would be like if it wasn't for the British Empire. I know for a fact there would be no Canada, Australia, New Zealand etc and Americas certainly would not be the America we know today! I work with a lady who is from Peru and she is pro British Empire. I wondered why someone who our empire didn't affect directly would have such strong views and of course I asked her opinion. She replied by saying that there were major differences between the British Empire and the other European Empires. She then said that European Empires were purely out to make their country richer whereas the British intentions were to trade with other nations and people, it so happens that along the way they discovered lands and claimed them for England. She said the British and their colonies educated their people and they have always had this sense of freedom and individualism and free trade. She gave me an example and a pretty obvious one at that. She said look at the predominantly English speaking nations and other nations which arrive from other European countries, you will find that the wealthiest and more powerful nations are of English creation. What are your view on this?

I can't help but understand that the Americans must have imperialist tendencies. I mean they dominate all corners of the globe! The US Dollar is the world reserve currency, the US military has over 800 installations in around 36 countries worldwide, the US economy is worth $14 Trillion and is unchallenged on this as the 2nd richest country is Japan at I think $6 Trillion. The world watches American TV and movies and we all wear American clothes, drink American drinks and eat fast food at some point in our lives. From this I understand that America does have an Empire in every way shape and form of previous empires ie. British Empire. The only difference is America doesn't colonise different parts of the world although some people who argue with that. I just don't understand how a nation like America, who apparently opposes all forms of empire and hate the British for that very reason would act as an empire themselves? I guess the British has left another legacy on America, not just the language, culture, traditions, law and trade but also empirical tendencies. Am I right or wrong and what are your views on this? Oh an please, I don not want Americans giving abuse fro my view. Please respect that I am also entitled to free speech, not just America

Every gay guy I have met has been extremely shallow! When discussing relationships, they give me stupid reasons for splitting up and I used to think maybe it's just immaturity but even older gay guys are like that! If they are that shallow, it gives me no hope whatsoever in finding a boyfriend. I am very open minded and accept everyone for who they are but I do have my flaws and I'm scared that guys will notice that more and judge me for my flaws. Is this the reason I'm 23 and never had a relationship?

I just want to know

I get nervous when I need to fart in work so I just hold it in but then obviously I get stomach cramps, so how should I fart and how do I make sure no one hears it or it's not as loud? I work in an office

I know this may sound weird but hey it's a laugh and I find farts funny

I keep asking myself and my friends that very question and still haven't come up with an answer. I love watching movies and seeing two people declaring their love for each other but when it comes to real life I just can't do it. I hate putting myself in the situation where I have to make an effort or impress a guy. The thing is I am quite a strong guy and I am in control of my feelings. I am scared that all it may take is for me to fall head over heels in love for a guy and he has won over my feelings. I don't want to lose control as I have never been in love before so don't know how to feel love or how it feels. From speaking with people it is quite an intense feeling and I'm afraid it may be that which allows me to lose control of my feelings then that person has got me. I know I am young (23) but all my friends and family have had long term relationships in the past by that age and kind of feel like I need to rush to feel love in case I never feel it again or before I get too old and nobody wants me. I also sometimes hate saying that I want to feel love as to me that is a weakness, like when someone cries. To me it is for security. Maybe that's what I want? I don't know, am I right or wrong or will I ever find it?