LadyySteph

my daughters father is seeing someone new, and i get extreamly jealous when i find out if she is going to be around me daughter.

I don't know why, my daughter doesnt really care for her, and i know nobody can replace me, but i still feel sick and anxious when i know she will be doing something with this woman. What can i do to help me not feel this way?

What are your thoughts and experiences with children and cell phones? I am thinking of giving an old iphone to my daughter. Its mostly for me to contact and connect with her when she is with her fathers every other week. Any input would be great.

My boyfriend won't leave his phone. He spends every waking hour with his dumb phone close at hand. He laughs with it, plays with it. All family outings he's looking at it. Family movie night he's reading it. He's always texting people instead of talking to me. When we go out to dinner he's on his phone and ignoring me. I shouldn't even have to have a talk with him how it makes me feel. But I did and he ignored me. What do I do? I am jealous of a phone!!!!

My daughters birthday was a few weeks ago and we were going to have my family over one day and my husbands family over another day because our families don't get along. Two days before we were going to have his family over for a little party his sister text him asking if she could bring her new boyfriend whom we've never met to our daughters birthday party. ( she doesn't date great guys, well great looking guys but they are all the same really dumb no career goals like to party and they've been dating for 2 months) and my sister in law needs attention all the time and gets jealous about my 8 year old having attention over her. So anyway, my husband replied " we are really looking forward to meeting your new boyfriend but it's our daughters birthday and we don't want to take away from that so maybe we can get together in a few weeks" well she over reacted and said that she wasn't going to come to the party and she would just send the gift with their parents. Well my husband then replied " keep the gift because we don't want to explain why you're not there because you're a selfish ***** and you hardly have a great track record of guys and delete my contact information I am done with you and your drama."

Sooo that's that. When my in laws came over my normally great mother in law was acting pretty nasty. And now my husband doesn't want to see her either.

My sister in law deleted me from facebook, my mother in law who normally "likes" or comments in everything on facebook no longer does. She is also putting a lot of those " karma" quotes on her page.

So the holidays are coming up and I just want everyone to get along. How do I do that? Withou over stepping my boundaries? Should I just give everyone time to cool off?

My daughter is now 8 years old, ever since she was 3 her father and I have been apart. Our arrangement has always been that she stays one week with me and then goes with him for a week. I have been with my boyfriend now, for three years, and my daughter adores him.

Recently my daughters father has been seeing a women ( as far as I know the first one since we've been apart) So he's been seeing her for less than a month ( i only know details because my daughter tells me) last week he introduced this girl to my daughter, which to me seems a little early, but whatever. But last night he called her at my place and he forced my daughter to speak with her on the phone which made my daughter a little uncomfortable.

So obviously I'm mama bear and I feel threatened now that some other chick is going to try and take my baby away. I know that would never happen, but thats how I feel. I just feel like now my daughters father is going to push his new girlfriend on her to make them an insta-family. And I feel like my daughter will like her more than me. I just feel threatened it makes me nauseous. Any of you have a similar experience?

I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. We don't have sex...ever. We had sex a few times at the beginning. But since then nothing. We're 30. But I am the second woman he has ever been with and he would get nervous and not be able too. Which I understood and I tried to help him the best I could. And then I went on antidepressants and my libido went wayyyyy down. I've recently come off the antidepressants and I'm feeling better. Like he doesn't touch me, doesn't cuddle, doesn't look at me. We both have gained weight, him a lot more than me. And maybe that has something to do with it. Even if I initiate he just brushes me away or tells me his stomach hurts. I've tried talking with him about it and his answers range to: he feels fat and gross and just cant get into it; he gets insecure about performance and then gets nervous and can't, and its a whole cycle; to yelling at me that its my fault and I always reject him.

I just don't know what else to do. Any thoughts?

Ok I guess a little bit of background information on both of us is needed?

I am 29, I went to college, had some assistance from my parents (they gave what they could) but paid for 70% on my own. I have a daughter who is now 8, and am no longer with her father. When her father and first split I moved in with my dad, because of my daughters father I couldn't get a loan anywhere to buy a car, so my dad bought me a car and I paid back every cent with interest. I also paid rent while living with him, and cleaned the house, made dinner, and took care of the yard. I always expressed to him how grateful I was that he let me and my daughter stay with him. Then I met someone and moved in with him...

My sister is 26, she dropped out of high school when she was 16. She lived with my mom at the time. She didnt get a job so didnt pay rent. She stole from my mom to buy alcohol and cigarettes. She eventually had random jobs at skeezy bars, but still didnt pay mom any rent money. She would use moms car and take moms money for gas, alcohol and cigarettes. She eventually went to college on the condition that my dad pay for all of it. She made mom pay for the books, gas, parking spot? Then she couldnt find a job locally so she moved 3000 km away! She didn't have a car out there so my dad straight up bought her a car.

So my problem is more about her being a mean horrible toxic person. She thinks that growing up we were treated unfairly. That she was the lesser child. She constantly comments on how having my child is a huge mistake. Anytime I mention anything about money she rolls her eyes and says that I made the choice and I have to pay for it. She loves my daughter and spoils her (which is her one redeeming quality) so I don't know why she acts like that and says things that make my daughter a burden not a blessing. She still comments on "daddy buying me a car" leaving out the part I paid him back, and also leaves out that he also bought her a car?? She tells me that the reason she isn't in a relationship is because of me. Not sure what that means exactly? She has to make a snarky comment to degrade me and embarrass me no matter what, its like its her life goal. My boyfriend sees it. He is really upset about the way she treats me and the way I tolerate it because I don't like conflict. I just want everyone to get along. She just rolls her eyes at everything I say and has to argue it all. I don't know what I did to make her hate me, I don't know whats going on inside her head. Shes visiting home now and I had her over a few nights ago just to hang out watch movies and play old school nintendo and she was just mean, I almost kicked her out of my house a few times but held my tounge. My boyfriend wants me to just cut her out of my life since she causes me so much misery and anxiety. He said hes not going to hold back anymore and if shes mean to me especially in front of my daughter hes going to call her out.

I just don't understand why shes like this? Any insight would be great!

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. He is a really great guy and I love him. But we have issues (as do most couples I suppose) I am going through depression and have been my whole life. He wants to be supportive but he just cant handle it. Every time I have a breakdown or share my negative thoughts or feelings he gets mad at me. I think its mostly because he is upset that i feel this way. But basically he gets mad and turns it into a big fight. So then I have to put whatever is bothering me aside to make him not mad at me and suffer in silence. He always says he wants me to share my feelings and thoughts but freaks when I do. So the last few weeks I have kept my bad thoughts and feelings to myself. I keep any complaining about my day to myself. He doesn't share with me anything about his day with me so I'm pretty sure he doesn't want to hear it from me. But it is hard not having anyone to talk too. I don't have any friends. The one friend I had when we first started dating betray me so I no longer talk with her. My family belittles me with just day to day talk so I can only imagine the harping i would get if I talked about feelings and whatnot. I've tried making friends with some of my boyfriends friends but that never works out. I feel like I'm holding him back, like he could do better, and i should just be alone. I'm just lost and alone and I don't know what to do.