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I'm a girl and I had a guy best friend that was there for me during the hardest time of my life. When his time came I was there for him. But now that we graduated our friendship completely fell apart, I don't talk to him at all anymore not even to check on how he is doing. I know he is going through a rough time but it is really hard for me to contact me because I know that he is always doing drugs, well most of the time. I was very hurt by this because he preferred to go smoke weed with his party buddies rather than stay friends with me. It is really though on me because I grew to rely on him so much and now I feel lonely. I have gotten close to another of my guy friends and he says that I'm his best friend and I guess he is mine but I don't let him get too close to me because I'm afraid of something similar happening again. I don't know how to get over the fact that my friend abandoned me...please help...any advice would be helpful...

By the way I was not romantically involved with my best friend, he was like a brother to me

In all 4 years of high school I have switched my friends...every year I switch and that bothers me a lot...the only friend that I have kept is my best friend, but I think we have been able to stay best friends because we don't hang out in school...is something wrong with me?....

As soon as I get bored or frustrated of a friend I distance myself from that person and when I notice I have already stoppped talking to that person...I don't understand why I do this, I hate it!

Not only that but the friends that I have had have all screwed me over, they have all used me except for my best friend

so, story is i was molested by my uncle for about four years and well lets say the social worker got involved...

anyway things are really good in my family right now even though my mom had to kick out someone she loved very much...and well i don't think its necessary for me to go see a therapist..

but the school psychologist was telling me that right now i might feel like this but that later on i'm going to want to do something about it and she says that i have to go to therapy because i went through trauma...

so should i go???

so, story is i was molested by my uncle for about four years and well lets say the social worker got involved...

anyway things are really good in my family right now even though my mom had to kick out someone she loved very much...and well i don't think its necessary for me to go see a therapist..

but the school psychologist was telling me that right now i might feel like this but that later on i'm going to want to do something about it and she says that i have to go to therapy because i went through trauma...

so should i go???

my best friend told me a while back that he was going on a date with a girl and i saw them ther and the next day i asked him how it went on his date and he said that it wasnt a date...and lately ppl have been coming up to me asking me if my best friend and that girl are going out and i ask my friend and he always says no and the other day the girl was complaining cuz she said that my friend took her to his house and that he didnt even kiss her and i told him if he was lying to me about the girl and he said no, but i know he is, but why does he keep on lying to me about it? he usually doesnt lie to me...ever, but now all of a sudden hes lying to me about that girl...its not like i care if he gets with that girl...so yea why does he deny it?

I'm not sure if when you're in love you know you are....or if you don't know...

this girl has disliked me since freshman year (i'm now a senior) she said that i took away her friends but i dont know how someone could take someones friend but watever...

she started hating me cuz my best friend turned out to be her boyfriend later on...i didnt care if he made her his girlfriend because well its his life not mine....

anyway she started hating me..and i mean a lot because i talked to her boyfriend which was my best friend and she started saying that i was trying to take him away which is not true.

they broke up and she still blamed me and i didnt understand why...

my best friend is a very honest person so if u ask him something he'll answer with the truth...wen he was with that girl she asked him if he liked me and he said yea...i just found this out...and well i sort of get why she hates me but she shouldnt hate me cuz its not like i threw myself at my best friend..it was nothing like that..i didnt flirt with him..i didnt lead him on because he had a girlfriend i respected that.

so idk...does she have the right to hate me?

guys for me are not complicated, they usually do what they want and say what they mean.

i grew up with guys and i understand the way they think, however my best friend, well i know how he is. i know everything about him and he knows everything about me. i love him very much but i'm not sure what type of love it is. anyway apparently my friends think he's in love with me, they say that cuz he acts differently with me but i would expect that cuz we're best friends. they say hes sweet to me and that he stares at me but idk...i've thought about it but i dont think he does...sometimes i do and other times i dont...he hasnt told me that he does so i really dont know wats going on...and sometimes he talks to me about other girls and i remind him of wat he tells me and he says that he didnt mean it like that..that he doesnt like that certain girl...so idk its very confusing..

so thoughts on this...your opinions please...and if u got something jerky to say then just dont say anything....

well i was just wondering...

and why or why not?

i dreamt that there was a hurricane...i wasnt caught in it...i just knew it was ther and that a lot of ppl were dying because of it. and wen the hurricane finally disappeared the weather got really cold; it was freezing.

so can anyone tell me wat this means cuz i've never dreamt a hurricane or any tropical storm before...

please and thank you for your help :)

so i'm a girl...but this doesn't really have anything to do with that..i'm just curious

why do guys complain so much about girls...saying that they're only good for sex and how girls are always bitches and stuff...

girls don't really talk bad about guys unless they hurt us...

so i was just wondering why do guys stay with girls if they're always complaining about them...wouldn't it just be easier if they turned gay if they hate girls that much to where it comes to a point where they say that girls are only good for sex...

i'm not generalizing...i know some guys don't think this way...but i still wonder

last week i told my parents that the uncle that lives with us touched me in ways that he shouldn't have for 3 years...

after that it seemed like my mom would blame me for the fact that it happened to me...but for some reason i don't think that's the case it's just probably that i'm depressed or something..i'm not sure..

my parents gave my uncle til the 1st to leave but every time that he's home my mom ignores me and only talks to him...she probably doesn't want to make him feel uncomfortable while he's here..

the only person that knows about this other than the ppl that live in my home is my best friend..he said that he wouldve given my uncle 3 days tops to leave..

i feel alone like if no one is ther to help me get over this...my best friend is ther for me he always tells me that he is but i dont want to rely on him too much...i want to get over this myself but i can't i don't know how...each day that passes it's getting worse..

i'm sorry that it's so long and my question is..how can i stop feeling so alone without having to rely on my best friend???...

ok my parents do know and they do believe me...they kicked out my uncle and gave him til the 1st to leave...the reason that i feel alone is that sometimes my mom makes me feel like it's my fault that all of this happened to me because she ignores me wen my uncle is around...and wen i told her wat had happened she didn't hug me or anything..it seemed like she was mad....

so yea that's why i feel alone i want her to hug me and forgive me for whatever i did...

i just hate the feeling of being alone...and i don't wana rely and push all of these problems on my best friend...

last week i told my parents that the uncle that lives with us touched me in ways that he shouldn't have for 3 years...

after that it seemed like my mom would blame me for the fact that it happened to me...but for some reason i don't think that's the case it's just probably that i'm depressed or something..i'm not sure..

my parents gave my uncle til the 1st to leave but every time that he's home my mom ignores me and only talks to him...she probably doesn't want to make him feel uncomfortable while he's here..

the only person that knows about this other than the ppl that live in my home is my best friend..he said that he wouldve given my uncle 3 days tops to leave..

i feel alone like if no one is ther to help me get over this...my best friend is ther for me he always tells me that he is but i dont want to rely on him too much...i want to get over this myself but i can't i don't know how...each day that passes it's getting worse..

i'm sorry that it's so long and my question is..how can i stop feeling so alone without having to rely on my best friend???...

last week i told my parents that the uncle that lives with us touched me in ways that he shouldn't have for 3 years...

after that it seemed like my mom would blame me for the fact that it happened to me...but for some reason i don't think that's the case it's just probably that i'm depressed or something..i'm not sure..

my parents gave my uncle til the 1st to leave but every time that he's home my mom ignores me and only talks to him...she probably doesn't want to make him feel uncomfortable while he's here..

the only person that knows about this other than the ppl that live in my home is my best friend..he said that he wouldve given my uncle 3 days tops to leave..

i feel alone like if no one is ther to help me get over this...my best friend is ther for me he always tells me that he is but i dont want to rely on him too much...i want to get over this myself but i can't i don't know how...each day that passes it's getting worse..

i'm sorry that it's so long and my question is..how can i stop feeling so alone without having to rely on my best friend???...

ok when someone is in love with their best friend they always say tell him how you feel...

but doing something like that would mean risking everything...risking the loss of your best friend the person you love the most in this world...

losing the only person you can trust...

i don't think people really have a say in it unless they have gone through something like that themselves...i know that they're just trying to help but its always easier to say it then to do it...

so what would you guys do if you were in love with your best friend???....would you tell him/her and risk everything or would you stay quiet and just be satisfied with him/her being by your side as a friend???...

by the way i'm not asking this for me...i was just thinking about this...