Claire

My son is 12 months now. I had a bad pregnancy and labor. I have been very sick since with continuous hospitals trips to try and get myself well again. I can hardly walk and I am always in chronic constant pain. My partner has started to get angry with me but says he does care and he wants me to rest like I am suppose to (I do help as much as I am capable). Well when things don't go his way he gets angry and an argument will start. He has threatened to leave many times the past few months but then when he calms down pretends nothing happened and refuses to talk calmly about it. I am a talker outer, I don't like conflict or arguments but if I am calm and not crying he says I am talking down to him. If I am crying but then stop as I have calmed down he always says "you changed your attitude again". I don't get this kind of behavior. I have never had to deal with this type of thing before. I am due my final operation soon but I dare not have it in case he leaves while I am bed bound after. This is dragging me down and my self esteem is below ground level. I feel like he has broken me as a person and I kind of hate him in a way. I need him most right now and all I get is reminded how I am sick and he makes me feel guilty for it. I never asked for the health issues I have. I would give anything to be healthy again but it takes time and patient which he has none of. I keep thinking it must be hard fr him but that is no excuse to yell at me or make me feel bad. Any advice?

My son is 21 weeks. We was advised to start weaning him over a week ago just and the first two nights he slept so much better. So right now he wakes 4am and we can not get him to sleep no matter what we do (health visitor can't even think of anything else). We feed him breakfast a bottle and porridge with apple between 5am and 7 am. Then between 11am and 1pm he has milk soon to add extra meal here with veg or fruit. Then for tea between 4 and 5pm he has another bottle and some veg. Then he will fuss for a night time bottle between 6 and 8pm. We have tried to do it on set times but he will scream or he just won't take it only to scream at us anyway when we try. He will then go to sleep no matter how hard we try to keep his night time routine at night which is bath bottle then bed. Nobody is helping us with advise and I feel so lost. We are just going along with it as of the last few days because it is just easier for us with the lack of sleep.

They both expect us to travel 269 miles when I have not long had my son and still recovering from two third degree tears which are struggling to heal. We have explained this but they say they won't come to us to see him. They say I am stopping them meeting him when I can't help how labour turned out. I am severely anemic too and can't walk properly due to pgp still not gone. I simply can't travel that far. I also have postnatal depression and just want to recover at home but they still say this isn't good enough. Talking doesn't work, blocked them from skype as they wouldn't ask what day or time is convenient and would demand to skype while I was in an appointment or at hospital for a checkup on stitches. Nope still not good enough. I can't win and my partner refuses to talk to them now as when he asked them to back off they called me a lot of names out of nowhere.

So i have indoor cats but still treat them. My neighbours flat is infested and she was in here the other day. I didn't realise they can travel on people till my friend told me. Sat watching tv, baby son in bed, partner at work and I feel something land on my arm!!! It was a flea! I freaked and now after checking my cats I see they have them. I am freaking out! I don't want it to get worse and need something baby safe and tips how to rid them fast. Also how do I get the council to force her to fix her flea infestation? It will happen again even if i don't let her in from what I have been told. I hoover daily and clean ocd crazy daily. I don't know what to do cos I have a 15 week old so need something safe to use. Im in the UK also.

So i sent my laptop in for a repair last week for a software malfunction. It was perfectly fine when I sent it but then when it came back i was mortified. So I opened the box to see paper saying they didn't repair it due to water damage. At that my partner pulled it out fully and lifted the screen and you could see water inside the screen and the keyboard was damp. My laptop never left me like this and after talking to hp they just keep fobbing me off. I honestly don't know what to do I feel like they are chosing to try abd ignore me when this happened once it had left my hands. Is there anything else I can do as the operator's refuse to let me talk to anyone incharge or to make a complaint and keep telling me someone will call back in 2hours tops just to not have anyone call. Sorry about bad grammar spelling, on my phone which is horrendous for typing.

My mother in law has had a habbit of calling us at stupid o'clock in the morning, drunk and wanting to talk for hours on end. It is getting out of control because now I have a newborn to think about and tonight it happened again. I have unplugged the phone and turned my mobile off which I shouldn't have to as my granddad is dying in hospital and I need it on for in case anything happens in the night. I don't mind me and baby being woken up to be told he has passed but my partners mother is out of control. She woke my baby up an hour ago and now he will not sleep and I blame it fully on her. I want to kill her literally I am so mad and sick of this. When I was working before little one came she would do this making me tired for work and unable to function. We asked her to stop but she refuses to. I don't know what to do. Got a lot of issues with his family being a bit odd and doing stuff normal people do not do. I feel now is the time to cut her off as she bullies me...his whole family do and they don't care about my feelings at all. Which is why they do this knowing it won't bother their son as he is at work so just I have to deal with this. I really needed to vent...sorry about the angry rambling but has anybody else got some crazy mother in laws or sister in laws out there just to pass the time?

Partner hasn't come back all night.

So we have a 8 week old son and I have been suffering with depression due to slow recovery from 2 3rd degree tears, blood loss and feeling under the weather. We have been having little tiffs a lot but normally he goes out so we don't argue and wait till we both calm down to talk about it or I go to bed to try and sleep it off. Well last night I found out his sister who has hated me for years has been sending him messages that are not very nice about me. I have never done anything wrong to her and it hurts that no matter how nice I am to her she can't even pretend to be civil with me.

Last night I told him to leave me alone to calm down, he normally goes out for an hour and that's it. Well he never came back. He has no friends to stay at so I don't know where he is! I am almost having a panic attack and haven't slept all night. I can't help but keep looking out the curtains every few minutes at either side of the house trying to see him. I just want him home but his phone is here and he left his keys and I can't cope with little one alone at this moment in time. I am trying my best but with his sister being this way and me trying to deal with my depression working with the gp and health visitor she is not helping. I honestly don't know what to do. How long should I leave it before filing a missing persons? I ask this because people have been turning up dead around here and I am worried sick. My anxiety is through the roof!

So in the small print on a agreement it states

5. Our liability to you.

5.1 We are only liable to you as set out in this agreement. We have no other duty or liability to you.

5.2 Nothing in this agreement removes or limits our liability for death or personal injury caused by something we have done or failed to do or for any fraudulent misrepresentation we may have made to you.

5.3 Except as set out in points 5.1 and 5.2 our total liability to you for something we or anyone who works for us does or does not do will be limited to £3000 for each sim card for one incident or £6000 for each sim card for a number of incidents within any 12 month period.

5.6 You must tell us of any claim as soon as reasonably possible.

So say I was miss sold a contract and I complained then finally after talking to someone who can handle this was told they have no knowledge of section 5, what should I do? Am I entitled to anything for being miss sold a contract so they can keep up sales? They do admit that this is their fault but have avoided talking to me about section 5. What can I do?

So baby is due soon and my sister who never cared about me before suddenly wants everything to do with me. I am happy she wants a part of my child's life but she makes me depressed. A;ways puts me down and has done for 26 years :/ So I have been gritting my teeth trying to be polite but she is telling me what to do with my pregnancy. Midwife advised me to not do something due to my health problems and my sister flipped her lid saying my "midwife is thick". She keeps pushing my fiance out saying she will do this and she will do that but to an extreme where is my partner says well I want to do that part she kicks off like he has no rights. She keeps telling me she will spend a few days at my home when baby is born and I know this is to control everything. I explained me and my partner want a few days alone with baby but she can meet him at hospital first she kicked off saying she is his aunty and I can't stop her from coming everyday if she wants to. This is driving me mad because even though I haven't seen my friends in weeks I had two of them round for a quick cup of tea and she kicked off about it saying I am putting friends before family and not shutting up about it for days on end. After every phone call with her I am in tears because she bullies me into agreeing to do stuff I don't want to and I am only agreeing to it after saying no ten times in a row because if I don't she will cause trouble for me by lying and telling people I am being mean to her. .......

So this type of thing has happened before but not with something I treasure so much. I moved out of my mums when 16 and then came back during my early 20's due to being made redundant and unable to pay rent. During my time away I spent a lot of money collecting rare books and I also had a huge Stephen King collection to add to the list. I spent a lot of time and money collecting some of my books and must of spent thousands overall. Well due to space I put them into a few boxes safely packed up water tight the lot and placed them in her loft out of the way till I was to move out. It has been 5 years since I moved back out and I couldn't collect my books at first due to my mum always working and never being in when I was free to go and get them. This past few months I have been stuck inside bored out of my mind struggling with my pregnancy due to complications and needed something to do so thought "oh I could get my books back and have loads of stuff to read and keep me busy!". I have been asking her for my books back all year and a little bit longer and she kept saying she was busy blah blah blah and I was fine with that. Then my little brother starts telling me he is into Stephen King and rare old books also and our mum had given him loads. I got curious and asked him what the titles of these books were and turns out they are exactly the same as mine. I can't yell at him for it as he doesn't realise what my mum has clearly done.

So me and my sister have never gotten along. She is very self centred and nasty and I have been on antidepressants in the past because of her behaviour and actions. When ever she wants something she is nice but flips in an instant. So me and my fiance have been planning our wedding for a year now. We plan to get married in another 12 months. We have taken our time because we know what we want will cost a lot of money due to my partner being Scottish and the cost of everything due to this. So I took my time and chose the bridesmaid dresses and shoes and showed them to everyone who will be wearing them. Well my sister doesn't understand I am not having a moh at my wedding yet has to be centre of attention. She wants different shoes, I said no you are all having the same. She wants her makeup done different. I said no you are all having the same. she has even kicked off about me wanting prayers at my wedding as "it will take too long!". Well today was the final straw as everything we have already planned she is trying to force me to change just for her. I didn't even want her as a bridesmaid knowing this would happen but gave in after she told lies about me to everyone I know and caused a lot of problems for me till I did give in. I am at a loss now as she is questioning everything I want and know knowing I am expecting she is even trying to control my pregnancy and how I bring up my baby. She has never been bothered about me before and is using this for her own attention. help!

So I was just wondering if I was the only one who has had stuff like this happen. I will start with stuff people have done to me behaviour wise.

*One man decided it would be ok to touch my bump and when I asked kindly for him to stop he kept poking me and laughing. I found this made me feel very vulnerable and upset and had to walk away. Yet as I walked away he kept trying to poke me and I turned frantically trying to make him stop.

*A women doing a survey in my local shopping centre approached me and my fiancé while we was sat on a bench eating our lunch and began to talk to us. I was talking to her about the survey when she froze mid sentence and stared at my bump asking how old I am. I realized instantly she saw I was pregnant and was shocked at how I look 10 years younger than I am but when I told her I am 26 she still stared at my bump then back to my face. I tried to laugh it off until she grabbed my hand to check for a ring. I got up and walked away as I felt it was nothing to do with her.

The rude things people have said are

"wow! it's gonna be hard to carry on with school now isn't it?" I am 26 btw. "Your baby is going to be real big I can tell" First off the person who said this has not seen me through my whole pregnancy so how? "You going to breast feed?" Yep a random man on the bus asked me this. I was horrified. "You look terrible, maybe being pregnant wasn't such a god idea" From another random stranger who I had never seen before that day. what about u?

So I am currently pregnant and have been told by my midwife to wash my hands each time I have played with my cats. I love both of them so play with them when ever I am feeling well and not overly tired. But this week I am just really exhausted and both my cats want to play with me when I am under strict bed rest. I don't mind them coming to cuggle up to me as long as they leave my face alone but I am waking up to them licking me and pawing at my face. I have tried closing doors properly but the oldest one can open them, I have tried barricading myself in the bedroom but once again the oldest one manages to get in because my partner gets so annoyed about his yowling he ends up letting them both in while I am asleep. I know they just want to be near me but I just don't feel well at all right now and I need them to back off a bit. Any ideas? Please no troll or rude answers. And yes the vet knows about this and has checked both cats out and they are perfectly healthy. He has suggested spraying them with a water bottle to get them away from me but they have made a game of it now so doesn't work.

Basically I am really stuck right now. I am applying for a new job who want my last employer as a reference. I am scared to let them contact them as for the reasons why I left. I will explain as short as I can what happened.

I started working in a nursing home and everything was fine for the first month. After that month when I got used to how things were done I started to notice abuse going on. Almost every single carer was doing this. And it was not just verbal abuse but also physical abuse. I always treat service users the way I would like to be treated in their situation and found this to be very upsetting to watch so I complained countless times to the manager. After a few weeks I realised nothing was being done and carers started to act hostile towards me. One carer who was in the same boat as me told me they had all been told I had complained about them on my last day off and they all wanted to force me to leave. I complained again but this time about bullying as they started to be really cruel to me. Nothing was done. The manager then started to bully me and after months of trying to get something done I went into the doctors suicidal and feeling trapped. He said I was having a mental breakdown and needed some time signed off sick to get myself straight. I spent this time going higher up anonymously trying to get something done about the abuse and bullying. Nothing happened as far as I know. I started getting harassed by the manager while at home during the first week to the point she talked me into not taking medication and claiming she knew more than my doctor. This made me even more depressed and I ended up having to tell her I am not coming back and the doctor advised me to not even work my notice.

Now what do I tell new employer? I have never been in that situation before and after taking time to get myself right again and taking a break I feel the same panic I felt having to confront my old manager. I know they will not write anything good. Also the main reason I took my doctors advise was because the bullying got physical like while I would be outside eating my lunch alone people would be throwing things out of the window at me. I honestly would of done more to stick up for myself if I could of done but there are ways of handling this type of thing without stooping to their level. Ignoring it did not help at all it made it worse.

The one time I did say something back but I was not mean when I pointed out that they was bullying me they all laughed at me and started telling me that I am going to cry in the toilets. Tbh most days I did. I have to put this employer down as a refernece but what do I put as my reason for leaving and what do I tell the employer at the interview?

I am 15 weeks this Thursday (I know early days). But I have started to become really scared of labour. I am suffering so much and have been since I was 5 weeks. I have very very bad nausea and sickness which has made me house bound for weeks even on sickness meds I am still ill. I have very incredibly painful hip pain both sides. I can't sleep more than 3 hours a night and my sleep pattern is messed up because of this. I can't eat at all but force it down still even though I will eat a few mouthfuls a day. I am starting to have very very aggressive nightmares and I just feel a wreck. I cry all the time and now I am terrified of labour. I have heard from friends and family many different ways of describing labour. Some have said it is like taking a big dump with lots of pain. One friend keeps telling me it felt like being burnt alive which has made me cry most days I am that scared. I have even heard people describe it as breaking 20 bones at once. Now I don't know about everyone else but breaking one bone is bad enough. I know there are pain relief options out there but I have another problem. I hate needles. For my blood test at first midwife appointment I got in such a panic I tried to bolt out of the room and fainted before I opened the door. When I came too my partner was stroking my head while midwife was drawing blood I screamed and begged her to stop. I am like this due to a bad needle experience in the hospital when I was 16. It traumatised me literally.

I am terrified of a drip being put in my hand as I know in panic during labour I would probably yank it out myself. I do not like the idea of a needle going into my spine and I know no matter how much pain I am in I would deffo refuse it. I am terrified of tearing and even more terrified of having a C section if it is needed. I know people will say it will be worth it but I am that scared I had mixed feelings at my first scan. I was happy but at same time sad because I think I was slightly hoping something was not there. I have spoken to my GP about this as I trust him and only him of all the doctors I have ever had to go to. He suggested I am suffering prenatal depression because my fears have gotten so bad I have even thought what if I have an abortion. Now please do not yell at me for that but I am literally terrified and I am so scared that I am going to actually die during labour and that something is going to go wrong. I blame my friend with the story of her feeling like being burnt alive and how traumatising her birth was. She keeps teasing me about it which sent into such sadness I started up smoking again to try and stop shaking. I really need some reassurance as I am so scared and my next midwife appointment is later than normal as she is fully booked for weeks :( Please help

Ok so I am 26 and my older sister is 29. Ever since before I can remember I have hated her. The feeling is definitely mutual. Growing up was difficult with her bullying me, hitting me, throwing tantrums, stealing from me and making people hate me in general so I had no friends. I can always remember trying everything just to get her to like me but nothing ever worked. I remember being 6 years old and my mum got me my first acoustic guitar for my birthday. Within three days my sister broke it to pieces against the wall just because I had something she didn't. This happened every year on my birthday and became so normal I stopped opening presents and told people I didn't want anything. I was depressed every birthday knowing she was going to do something to me.

When I turned 13 my a few friends at school got me a few bits and pieces for my birthday like small perfumes and bits of make up. This is when my sister started coming into my room, taking things and hiding them in her room on a regular basis. After weeks of looking for my new things I decided to check her room and hey guess what? I found them! I found many things that I hadn't been able to find in weeks and even months.

I lost my temper with her when I was 15 because she started a new thing to get attention and watch me get told off and grounded sometimes even slapped around myself. We had two sofas in the front living room. She would sit on one and when I got back from school I would sit on the other so opposite sides of the room from each other. We would not say a word then suddenly she would start screaming "MUM SHE IS HITTING ME! MUM HELLLPPP!!!!" along with shrieks and squeals. She would be hitting her self in the face while ding this to create marks. I of course would be sat there confused like what is going on?! Then she would run out of the room screaming before my mum would see I didn't actually do anything. This became a regular thing till I broke and I actually got up and hit her as hard as I could. I had never hit anyone in my life but it felt soooooo good I am sorry to say.

Well now we are adults throughout the years she has told lies about me just because I have something she has not and she questions everything I do. This girl actually makes me depressed to the point I wouldn't care if something happened to her. It is terrible I feel that way but with age she has gotten worse and she is teaching my niece to do these things now too. Social services knocked at my door last year asking if I had been near my niece in the past two days and I was confused as I hadn't seen her in 6 months. Go figure! So I am expecting now and my sister is trying to make out my other half is a bad person, she is trying to control our wedding like "If I aint maiden of honour me and your niece are not coming!" But real nasty is how she says it. I have been ill on and off for years and currently until after baby is born and I have had a few ops I can not work.

I was told I am entitled to help with paying bills due to this. My sister hates that and has slagged me off claiming I am defrauding the system when I cried and begged my boss to let me keep working when they told me I have to leave till I am better again. She does not like it when I have anything or when I am happy. I have missed a lot out for you to understand the whole thing and how bad it really is but lets just put it this way I need advise on what to do. Talking to her doesn't help at all. I have been trying for months now but even a friendly conversation turns into a hostile uncomfortable one and if not a full raging argument. I am sick to death of it and know I do not want her around my child when it is born. She is nothing like the rest of my family at all. She is a horrible evil person.

I do not know what to do as if I just avoid and ignore her there is a good possibility I will have more trouble because of her lies and rage. God she even yelled at me today because I said I was going to start swimming while pregnant. She asked where I got the money from and when I explained my partner has bought me a pass for the swimming pool she proper got jealous :( She called me every name under the sun and it is exhausting because when you stand up to her it gets even worse she just doesn't shut up or back down. So yeah sorry about grammar and stuff please help. I do not want to fix the relationship because nothing was ever good about it and even my shrink has suggested I somehow cut her out completely. She is the reason why I have been on and off anti depressants al my life! And I can not risk her causing problems for my partner either which is now becoming a concern. She has already tried to make out he has done wrong to her when he hasn't. So advise on how to ditch without giving her the chance to cause trouble please.

So I am 13 weeks 3 days today. Been struggling to sleep at night and when I do manage to get to sleep I wake up at 1.30am and then can't get back to sleep. Nothing wakes me up at all and doctor and midwife told me to wait it. I am emotionally and physically tired and found myself crying the other morning by 3pm because nothing works. I have tried literally everything I am only wanting advice on how long this normally lasts not advice on how to get to sleep and stay asleep because trust me I have tried everything and anything. Thanks

So been in hospital today after choking like almost died choking on food in a restaurant. I am in my second trimester and ever since I was 6 weeks pregnant I have had this weird gag reflex that ends with a hiccup. I get it at random and had never had it while eating till today. So out with friends ordered some healthy food eating away happy and suddenly the reflex happened while mid chew. The inhale of the uncontrollable hiccup that is pretty powerful caused me to inhale food. I couldn't breath suddenly and took about 10 seconds for my friends to realise I was choking as I was panicking so much I just sat pulling at my throat trying to cough till panic made me fall to the side and into my friend. The one next to me saved my life with the hymlick or however it's spelt and I got take to a&e to make sure baby was ok and my ribs were ok due to a crunch he claimed he felt. So now I am petrified of eating and doctors don't know what to suggest...help?

This has been a very strange week for me and stressful and I decided to treat myself. I went on eBay and bid on a game which I won for like £2 plus £1.45 postage but before I got chance to pay the seller emailed me saying this game normally sells for £26 on eBay and they would like me to pay that amount. They was right but I won the bid at a low price fair and square. Seller got abusive when I explained this as nice as possible and in the end I contacted eBay to cancel my transaction because they was starting to say things like my mum sucks eh hem in hell and my dad does things to me. eBay was fine with it but suddenly a day later I get a nock at my door. It turned out to be the seller who randomly happened to live a few streets over from us. They got abusive and demanding. My partner threatened with police but while leaving a brick went through my window nearly hitting me. This was scary as hell can I get a restraining on this psycho?