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I have been working at the same place for about six months (food service) and I've been working with a guy who is constantly telling me what to do (He's not a manager by any means, he's just been with the business a bit longer, and not at the same store either) He's constantly making commentary about how I do things even if his way is not affective at all. I don't mind being informed of better ways to do things, I know I'm not a senior employee, but he treats me like I just started and that I don't know how to do anything (Like I'm stupid basically). He talks down to me right in front of the customers and denies that they could hear him, when they clearly did. He's constantly talking about girls that walk into the store in front of me (how they're so hot, wishes he could get their numbers etc.) I know I'm nothing special but it still kills my self-esteem when he makes those comments because he'll say things like "I bet she's a *****, only pretty girls are bitches." or "Don't ring up the hot chicks, let me do it." and it just really makes me upset. I don't much care for his opinion or his taste in women, but I still feel bad when he says that kind of thing, I already have low self-esteem as it is. He also takes incredibly long breaks and leaves the other employees as well as me out to dry during rushes. I don't want to seem like a snitch or a complainer, and I have mentioned to one of my managers about his long breaks, but we are in a transition period, because there have been a lot of changes to management and it's really hectic, so it's really hard to say anything, plus he's been there longer than me. I'm really getting aggravated with him and I'd rather not cuss him out and lose my job I don't think he's work that much trouble, but I can only count backwards for so long and only take so much. I really need this job to pay rent. If I go over my current managers it could cause problems, but I don't want to just be a snitch about everything the managers have a lot to deal with right now, I don't want to just pile this on top of them. What is the best way to handle this? I've tried talking to the guy but he constantly says he doesn't care, and he's even said to me that he doesn't care about the rules. I just don't really know what to do! I've got a bit of a temper and I've been holding my tongue but he makes work hell and it's already hard enough to deal with because food service isn't very glamorous to begin with. Is there a way to tell my managers without seeming like a tattletale or like I'm making it up? I don't have a lot of evidence to prove he talks the way he does around me, and he's good about keeping his mouth shut when there's a manager around. Someone please help!

I work with a guy who I really like, but I'm not sure if the feelings are returned and I'd hate to assume they are and make a huge mistake. Eitherway, I started flirting with him just for fun and he started to flirt back (from what I understand anyway) I try to talk to him whenever we have freetime, I smile and tease him amd laugh when he tells jokes "He's really funny" and I'm sorta bad at flirting so I know he had to habe noticed Plus be's older and more experienced in relationships so it's a pretty safe assumption.

But to current details. I asked a lot about his life and I figured he wasn't all too interested in me because he didn't really ask me much besides "How are you?" "How is your day?" etc. But whenever He jokes with me he says he's kidding where as with the others he rarely does or doesn't at all. Also He let me stay at work after hours to hang out when he normally would have made me leave. And when I said obviously jokingly "I know you don't want me here so I'll leave." he said "I never said that, you can stay." he also seems defensive when I jokingly say things like "Geez love you too" sarcastically after he makes me do certain jobs.

Yes, yes I know work relationships are not the best idea. That's not what I'm asking. I want to know if he likes me. If I decide a work relationship is not for me I'd hate to seem distant if he's just being nice. What's the best way to tell without coming off abrassive or too strongly?

Thanks in Advance.

Hi everyone! I'm new to dating in general... I'm 19 but never been real successful in the whole dating thing. I started working at this restaurant, and I started working with a shift manager who is AMAZING. He's good looking, super sweet, tall, smart, the works. I never thought I ever had a chance so I just never bothered. But one day on a whim and after much pressure from friends I attempted to "flirt". Here is where I need assitance.

When I started flirting, or what I hope was flirting (sneaking glances, playfully teasing him, being really extra kind, etc.), he started to treat me differently than normal. He started to tease me back more than normal and apologized when I pretended to act offended, he never used to apologize, he also started doing things to make me laugh. (Acting goofy, singing, wearing a head band) He's already a pretty funny guy. So I don't know if it was just his mood, Cause I haven't worked with him for more than a month yet. He treated me differently than the others and he didn't back off or anything at my flirting, and kept showing up and talked to me a lot.

The next day however, he acted differently again, he seemed stressed and tired but he was sort of avoiding me and almost seemed sort of annoyed? All the first day he hadn't been annoyed at all from what I could tell... I keep getting mixed signals.

I don't want to come off too strong, and I know some guys can be oblivious... I'm just really new to this whole thing... He's about 6 years older than me, but that doesn't seem to matter, and certainly doesn't bother me. But I honestly can't tell if he's being nice because he feels sorry for me, or if there's something there. I don't want to put stock in something that might not exist at all. :/

Is there a way I can tell that's indirect? I don't want it to be awkward if he definitely doesn't feel the same way. I'd definitely like to date him, but I honestly don't know what to do! Please help!

Thanks in advance!

I'm 19 and I have been suffering from pain in my upper to mid back for almost a month now. I have done every stretch I can, taken pain relievers (over the counter), and even had my brother crack my back (He was taught by a professional chiropractor how to crack backs but nothing else)... Nothing is working same pain, with no relief! My parents say we can't afford a chiropractor... But I work, so I was gunna scrounge up some money to go see a chiropractor but need a rough estimate?! I've never had my back adjusted and have absoluteky no idea of where to begin! Please help!

I just started working, but something I've never understood about work experience is when the best time to quit is? Like, how long do you need to stay with a company for it to still look good for job experience? Right now I'm in food service, but I'd really rather be in retail, but all retail jobs in my area don't want to hire anyone with no prior experience. So how long should I continue working in food service before it's safe to put in my 2 weeks notice and apply for a retail job?

For about a week now, I have been getting a weird fever off and on in my knees. It gets really hot and uncomfortable but there isn't any pain. I'm not an athlete but I run/walk every night and I've never had any form of leg injury. I always had some sore joints due to strain from a growth spurt but after physical therapy years ago I never had any problems. I've never had an issue like this before and it baffles me because I don't notice swelling either, just uncomfortably high fever. My mom has always been worried about some form of arthritis and my doctor told her my joints would be inflamed and swelling which didn't happen until very recently. I haven't put any strain on them what so ever. So I'm a bit worried.

We use Knology and I was just on facebook and then my screen went away and I got a notice telling me that I had committed illegal acts on my computer and that Knology had suspended my computer. I'm utterly confused because the supposed charges are things I didn't do and wouldn't know how to go about doing. It's only on my computer! And the company hasn't called or anything. The screen keeps telling me I have to pay a fine of $300 through moneypak within 48 hrs, or they will tell the police and totally delete everything off my computer! I'm really confused because it seems like a virus, but I've never seen one do this before! Normally I wouldn't be worried because I haven't done anything but my brothers occassionally use my computer and they might have done something. I want to tell my dad but I'd rather not if I can help it. Please someone tell me if this is just a nasty virus?! I can't get past it it pops up no matter if I restart or not. I'm really stressed over this! Someone please help!

No matter who I ask all I hear are pros. I know there's no way it's the perfect most positive city so what are the cons? Also which is better, Savannah or Atlanta?

My dad has always yelled at me when he gets frustrated or upset, I've almost never had a conversation with him where I wasn't "Wrong". He's yelled at my older brothers to the point where one moved out and the other will only come downstairs to eat and when he has to leave, because he doesn't want my dad to confront him. He talks down to us, we can't say anything to him with out him taking it negatively. He always yells that he's not yelling and refuses to admit anything is mentally wrong with us. (All 3 of us had to go on anti-depressants, I'm still on them.) When I was little I used to just curl up and cry but I got so sick of crying and being upset that I started fighting back, which of course has only made it worse, but I have no other way to defend myself. I've tried telling him that he hurts me but he only attacks me and calls me ungrateful. He controls everything we do in our lives, he's sarcastic to the point of emotional harm, he has no verbal restraint and has called us "dumbasses","Liars", "Thieves" and when I was sick that happened to be on the same day of school one year he called me a "Lying little *****." and said I was trying to get out of school. I had cut myself in 8th grade after a very similar incident, and his only response when he found out was to yell at me, call me a dumbass and tell me to never do it again. There was no, "Do you need help?" he didn't even ask me why I did it. Then he made fun of me and picked at me for years until it finally faded. When I went through a goth phase, he said he didn't want a "freak" for a daughter. I've put up with it for so long I was so numb to it and I never bothered to get help because I was too scared to, now I'm 18 and can't do anything about it because I'm not a kid anymore. So how do I deal with him now? I can't move out for 2 more years and I don't know how much of it I can take. He keeps me constantly stressed and nervous and takes out a lot of his frustrations on me. I've tried talking to my friends, but it doesn't stop what's going on, just helps temporarily, I need a more permanent solution to make him see or change the way he acts towards me.

I was wondering if anyone knew of a place that could ship yellow bellied slider babies with a smaller amount of shipping? My local pet stores won't sell them, and I've looked at countless online places but the shipping is always $39.99 or something very close which is nearly 3x the cost of the turtle! Is there any place that maybe will at least meet me half way on shipping or that can discount it? I have one turtle that I bought on vacation over a year ago, but I really wanted another and there's no way I'm going to drive that many hours to get one turtle that the same place may or may not sell them anymore. I'd be glad to pay the shipping maybe if there was more than one turtle for a lower price, but it's still extreme especially being the turtles themselves rarely cost of $20. Is there any company or singular buyer who will help me out with shipping?

I don't mean to be argumentative, and I really hate it, but I feel absolutely compelled to argue. It's costed me some rough fights with friends and I've had plenty of people point it out to me. When I went on anti-depressants I wasn't as bad, that's why I'm wondering if it's not some form of mental disorder or just associated with depression. Anytime I go off my anti-depressants I find myself much more argumentative, does anyone know of anything. I also have anxiety which goes hand in hand with depression, which might also be the cause, but still very curious to understand it.

I'm 17 and I just had one of the hardest talks with my mom this morning, I was trying to tell her I need help, that I am depressed. My boyfriend just broke up with me last Thursday, and she believes that's the reason I'm depressed, when that has only made the depression I already had worse. I'm now getting chest pains, and it's extremely uncomfortable. When I told her she just told me to do all of the things I had been doing already. She told me to just cry it out, I've been doing that for months. She told me it was just hormonal, it'll clear up in a few days. I've been depressed for nearly 4 years now. I just never had the courage to tell my mom, and there's really no hope trying to convince my dad, he will sit there and tell me there is nothing wrong or complain about the cost of a psychiatrist. I tried to present her with facts, that chest pain can come with depression and is intensified when I'm depressed, she just told me that I looked it up and it was "power of suggestion". I've looked up websites that help you convince your parents, and done all of their suggestions, my parents act like I'm making everything up. My mom even chuckled after she asked me "You're not thinking about suicide are you?!" and then I just kind of looked down and she laughed and said "Oh stop." and I just smiled. She keeps coming up with stuff to say and changes the subject very quickly. I don't know what to do, I have to do something soon, the chest pains are getting worse and more frequent and she only tells me I have to "Pull myself out of it." Please help me, I don't know how to convince her, and I need to get help from a professional, I'm really scared and everything feels so hopeless, It's only ever gotten worse. Please, please, help me.

I've had self diagnosed depression for 3 years (since around 8th grade, I'm in 11th) it's steadily gotten worse. It used to be where I'd only get it twice a year around the same time, which made me think at first it was environmental, but it's become more regular, now it seems to come every month. I also experience completely strange emotional highs during these times, sometimes I'm angry, sometimes completely apathetic (I have to warn my friends, in case I say something cruel or insensitive) some days I hate or just don't like people I once loved. I have a boyfriend, but suddenly the past few days I don't feel the same about our relationship as I did before. I know it's me cause he hasn't done anything wrong at all! I have problems focusing and keeping interest in anything, or I simply give up on my goals and aspirations.

I have some "daddy issues" mostly minor verbal abuse which I feel initiated the depression in 8th grade. I've been told by two of my friends in the years I've been depressed that I need to see a psychologist. Unfortunately my parents disagree especially my dad who doesn't believe psychology works. I don't think anything besides meds will help at this point. I've talked and vented everything to many of my friends and I've never felt any better, I've even had my friend who's dad is a psychologist give me advice she got from her dad, but it didn't help.

Both my brother and my uncle are bipolar, but it seems to pass more from the males on that side. I'm not sure at all of anything, so what do you all think will help me the most? Who should I see? And do I have more than just teenage depression?

I'm 17 now, going to be 18 in 6 mo. I've had these pains in my legs since I was in second grade (so since I was 7 or 8) and bad pain in my joints, (knees and hips) I also have back and neck pain that came a lot later, at first we went to the doctor he said I had this common ailment that athletes my age got where your bones grow faster than your muscles and it puts strain on your joints and makes your hamstring really tight. I'm not athletic at all... Now I am, I run a lot, but before I never did any of that. I was born flat footed and still am which the doctor tried to correct with customized insoles. It didn't help not even the exercises he gave me to do. Infact the excercises only left me in more pain. I randomly get sharp pains in my back and my legs are in pain ALL the time except when I lay down or prop them up but they hurt if I straighten them so I have to leave them bent, sometimes the joints burn as though they are inflamed.

My mom thinks I may have rheumatoid arthritis, how could you tell this? I don't know a whole lot about it and I'm afraid of looking it up and getting placebo thinking I have it. Any other suggestions for what it could be? Much appreciated!

Ok well a couple of guys at my school were talking about nipple size and how big nipples are unattractive... So I was wondering do most guys care? And what is considered big? How do you know? Also, what's the most effect way to get rid of stretch marks? I lost weight too quickly when I was a lot younger and so I'm really sensitive about my stretchmarks, they're on my inner thighs and below my hips. I just got my first boyfriend about a month ago... And im 17, so I was wondering what methods are fastest and don't require sugery? Thanks soooo much!!!!

I had been playing for nearly a year and my friend made a new account, she got all these extra gestures, like dance 2, 3, and 4 and I only have dance 1. Is it just the update? Is there a quest for older members to do?

I'm taking German 101 and I was curious how germanic speakers put emphasis on certain words without the spelling of the word giving away the emphasis. Like when we say "No, thank YOU." putting the emphasis on the you. How would germanic speakers do this? Would they emphasis the ke in danke?

My theater teacher has assigned that I have to find a song for class on Wed. It has to tell a story but can NOT be from a narrator's perspective. It has to be from that character's perspective.

All the songs I've wanted to do are all 3rd person and I'm having a lot of trouble finding a good song to use. As long as it's not rap, hip hop, emo, or country I don't really care, I just need one really badly. Please help, I'm at wits end and I really can't think of a song I know like this, it's a big grade to.

I was very interested in selling stock but do you really have to wait until you're 18, I'm 15, turning 16 in less than a month and I really need the money to help pay for college if I can't get scholarships, or to help pay for my photography equipment. Their are a lot of sites for amateurs but you have to be 18 on all the ones I've found.

I know you can sell them on Deviantart, and places that specialize in selling artwork but I wanted more specifically a photo stock site. Where people look more closely at photography then general artwork.

Most may argue "Why don't your parents do it for you?" I find it less independent and far harder to make a name for myself in the photography world if I use my parents names in order to sell my photography.

Any aid is much appreciated! Thanks in advance!

Sorry to bother anyone with this, but can someone give me a brief summary of what this says and what language it is. I got this as a reply on Deviant art about some artwork and I think they're insulting me but I' m not quite sure...

I want to be able to say something in my defense and I think they said it in another language instead of English because they were insulting me. So can someone help me?

dediklerini çevirmeye çalıştım ama sanırım fotograf beinim gibi bişi demişsin :@ fotografı çekende benim çekinende ben nası sahipleniyorsun anlamdım nese belkide tam çevirisini yapamamışımdır ... umarım yanlış anlamışımdır ... konuya açıklık getiriyim fotografı kendim çektim fotograftaki kişide benim böle yorumlarda bulunarak kendinizi alçaltmayın lütfen sanatçıya sagı diyosan önce sen başkarına saygı duy kimsenin fotografınada kendininmiş gibi yorum yapma.... ki umarım çevirmde hata vardır

(Sorry if it says something offensive, I have no clue what it says...)