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I suspect my gf is cheating on me with her boss.. She has cheated in the past years ago and i forgave her for it mainly because im too nice and i am madly in love with her.. But her boss like always takes her out.. Shes been out with him 4 times this month.. 2-3 times to the Warner theatre in D.C and once tonight.. This evening she said she had a photo op with him and other employees.. i believe her but after it was 9-10PM and im like where are you ??

She sends me a pic of a dinner plate of a resturaunt and i call and i asked are you having dinner with your boss ??? And she said yes.. I lost it.. I personally think its inappropriate to go out so much with a boss..

She said it was conveviant to go out to dinner after the photo op for work.. And im like no... You should have said no sorry im tired, and then called me and asked if i wanted to go out for dinner.. Am i right ?? I would have done that...

So im tired of her cheating... I found her boss on instagram and posted asking why is he taking my girl out all the time and does he realize she isnt single ?? He texts her a pic of my post and she calls me threatening she will go to police yada yada..

Am i wrong to have contacted that guy or would you guys have done that too ?

So My now ex who i walked out on the washingtons capitols pre-season game this friday for cheating a 3rd time. Mentioned to me about a week prior that she told her Personal trainer who also owns the gym she works out that i have a bad attitude.. And he told her if i lost some weight my attitude would go away and that if she loses weight itll make me more jeleous.

Which is a complete Joke because he has no idea who I am or anything about our relationship and i feel he should have kept out of our business. Ive been with her for 4 years.. She has cheated on me twice that i could prove and this recent one at the game she was texting on her phone a lot and when she was showing me her facebook post of her pictures she took of the game she got a pop up from a incomming text from a guy saying Hey Baby do you want to meet up tonight and have sex

I completetly lost it and embarrassed her in front of everyone in the stands around us and i just left her at the stadium and drove home alone she had to take an UBER.

Im done with her but her comments about my bad attitude to her trainer upsets me. I only have a bad attitude because of her constant cheating. She has done this to prior boyfriends as well she admitted and even her dad said she does it. So i wonder where my "bad" attitude comes from.

Should i confront that trainer and tell him the real story, and tell him he needs to learn to mind his own and watch his opinions on something he has no real clue about

I bought a 125g aquarium when its filled all said and done with the steel stand it had itll probly weigh 1500-1700 lbs maybe less but i know itll be around there.

Im going to put it on the outside front wall of the house and the joists go this direction meaning 5 or so joists will be under the tank.. Ony issue is the floor below this has a very large window like 8 foot wide window.. I tore the drywall up enough to see how the joists are positioned.. They are sitting on top of TWO 2x4's and those two 2x4 sit on top of a 2x10 board.. and i assume this is a header so it would be a double 2x10 beam with two 2x4s on top and the joists resting on top of all it.

Is this a load bearing wall ? If so would this support my fish tank ?

I cant be sure if its two 2x10.. but judging by how wide 2x4's are and them laying on a 2x10 which is only 1/2 inch thick then i would assume its a double header with double top plates.

Hey guys i want to put a 125g fish tank in my bedroom, and ive already established where the joist beams are going direction wise. So i will put the aquarium on the wall oposite of the beams. This way more joists are supporting the tank. However there is a bay window directly below this on the main floor. So there are no support pillars. I wasnt sure how the joists on attached and originally though they used hangars..

So i cut a square in the dry wall ceiling and i found that the joist beams are actually resting on top of a massive 2 inch thick beam.. Im guessing the beam is probably a 3x14-16 im not sure on the height of the board.. but it is a pretty big support beam.

My tank will be on a wrought iron stand though so 4 legs.. and on carpet.. so i plan to use some 2x10 pressure treated boards under the legs to keep it from being unstable.

So the tank will be resting on 5-6 joist beams which rest on a big 3x14-3x16 support beam..

Do you think this would be able to hold 1600 lbs of weight ?

I purchased 9 tires from a place called Burke automotive in burke virginia. 9 tires for 2 Jeeps, 1 was a spare.

Within 2k miles 1 tire blew on the freeway on my moms Jeep and they blammed it on low tire pressure and that it was our fault. We had a battle with them and manufacterer (cooper) and finally cooper gave us a new tire because i mean how does a tire lose air pressure after 2k miles unless they installed it wrong or something right ?

Well her 4 tires have been fine, but ALL 4 on my Jeep have been losing air pressure slowely the last 2 months now.. every 3-4 days i go from 40psi to 30-32 psi and ive probly spent like $20 in quarter refilling them.

I called the place i purchased them and they refuse to even look at them.

Ive brought it to another shop who jacked it up and sprayed the entire tire all 4 of them and couldnt find a leak even on the valve stems.. So why are my tires losing air pressure so quickly ?

Should i bring it to a shop and have them put new valve stems on or what ? What pisses me off about that is shops want $35 per tire to even do that.. So another $120$ for something that other shop should be liable for

I have a 1990 Jeep Grand Wagoneer and i have it for 5 months and just learned and have seen alot of them in junkyards for electrical fires.. I l earned its because the wiring on the electric choke and the emissions which splice together into one orange line and go into the firewall to the fusebox in a fuseable link is the reason for the electrical fires..

Because well.. the choke and emission wiring isnt FUSED !! good job AMC engineers lol..

Anyway i found my choke wiring and it was half way melted and i just replaced it with new 14GA wire. I added a inline fused on the main orange wire that splits into two orange wires for the choke and emission stuff. So if either of those two short out again the fuse should blow, and it wont go straight to the firewall and in the dash and cause a fire.

However on the Jeep forums a few people said to use a 25Amp fuse.. To me 25A on a 14GA wire seems pretty high. I was thinking more in the 15-20A range.

What do you guys think ? Is 25 too much, and is 20 safer or what ?

I had a well should i say f buddy, a fwb for like 3-4 months, and we didnt use condoms last month stupid i know, but we did use plan b, but one day we didnt as i didnt *** in her. She got her period, but this months period was delayed, most likely from the plan b as i know it can mess your cycle up for months.

Im not a guy to run from pregnancy scares and she asked if id help her if she was pregnant, to get rid of it. I said yes so we havent had sex in 3 weeks now. she has a ll the pregnancy symptoms but also pms symptoms as they are the same, but her period is like a week late.

Anyway, i told her she isnt pregnant its just the plan b, and ive been pushing her to get a pregnancy test.. I offered to buy them and pick her up from work. She refused and is now acting immature.. She finally took one this morning and freaked me out calling me and crying like a baby.. she was too scared to look at the results..

I finally calmed her down and she looked and it was not pregnant, she showed me the pic. Phew.. Im pretty sure if she was pregnant, last we had sex 23 days ago.. it would show up by now on a test right ?

Should i block her now and just go my seperate way, i cant deal with a woman this emotional. I offered to help, pay for everything i comfort her and she still acts like a child.. shes 25 years old, im 29.. . She wants to take another more expensive test, but im convinced she isnt preggo..

So should i high tail it and leave now or wait for the 2nd one ?

My GF is freaking me and herself out. We had sex around the 26th last month the condom broke and i didnt realize it and well i came in her and we got a plan B, Like 6 days later she got her period. On the 12 last month we had sex again and we didnt use condoms but i did pull out way before and yes i know it isnt fool proof. The weird thing was on the 12th after we had sex my sheets were bloody.. I have no idea why she was bleeding and she was just as shocked as me.

Anyway, shes been freaking out the last like week or so now because she has cramping, sore boobs, and even nasuea and vomiting so she told me. And she has major food cravings. Well her period was due on the 1st its now the 3rd.

Honestly im thinking her period is coming but its messed up from the plan B she took (she actually took two last month one week apart from eachother)

I've been trying to convince her to just get a pregnancy test done, i even offered to pick her up from from with a couple and well do it together and she refuses to do it because she is scared.. Its actually starting to iritate me...

What do you guys think ? Is she pregnant ? She says she never has PMS symptoms like these before, but two Plan B pills last month in a week of eachother i think really messed up her cycle and her PMS symptoms

Plus i dont think 1-2 weeks after we had sex that last time on the 12th is enough time to really start showing ALL these pregnancy symptoms including vomitting.. am i wrong or right

I have some new neighbors who moved in two houses down (i live in a townhouse which is houses connected) and everytime her and husband come home. Im usually out working on my Antique Jeep and i say hello or hi how are you guys doing..

And she never says a word and just walks inside.. Sometimes he responds but not her..

Im not religious, but i dont really like muslims. Im trying to be friendly but them ignoring my greetings is starting to iritate me and im thinking of just giving them looks from now on like they do vs saying Hello how are you

I have lived in this townhouse of mine for the last 11-12 years now. My cats well i had two brother and sister, for 14-15 years.. Miss Kitty died from cancer last year and MR Kitty is still alive.. He is in good health and still his old self. He is an outdoor indoor cat. He is always by my front door or inside or under my car he never goes anywhere really.

We had new neighbors move in recently like 3 weeks ago. They are Indian/muslim and the man whome i did landscaping work for asked if the grey cat was mine and i said yes and he mentioned 2 days prior he doesnt like cats or dogs or any animals. Well Mr Kitty has been missing for going on 2 days now. I find it odd after 12 years in the same neighborhood that he just vanishes suddenly when a new neighbor moves in and mentions he doesnt like animals and asks about my cat.

I asked him today is hes seen Mr Kitty, and he said no. Not in a week, and thats wrong because he saw him like 3 days ago when he asked me about him. I dont want to acuse him and start a war.. But im really worried about my cat. What should I do ?

Im buying a Antique vehicle and i was going to purchase it yesturday during the test drive but due to issues with my bank cashing a big check i had (they would only cash 1,000 out of the 4,000 check) i didnt have all the money. So i gave him a $500 cashiers check to hold the vehicle. He agreed to drive to my house on saturday with the vehicle and we will finish the transaction there. We should hands, i took a picture of the vin and his drivers license. Everything he has told me about the vehicle and its history turned out good when i checked the history report. Even the amount of miles hes driven turned out accurate..

I told him to not cash that check until we complete the deal because a deposit is for him to hold not him to cash and take. And he is young and kept calling me asking if he could cash it because he wants to make sure the money is good blah blah. I kept trying to explain to him that a cashiers check is issued by the bank and they wouldnt have issued it unless i had the funds in the first place.. And he doesnt seem to get it.

He is still talking to me.. at least this morning he has, he hasnt responded to my confirmation text about meeting tomorrow at 1 yet. But he might be busy at work who knows.

What can i do if this guy doesnt show up and just takes my $500 and decides to run..

You know besides me showing up at his address and beating him to a pulp

They are both the same size, the old one is 2200UF 10V the new one I have is 1000uf 35v.. The capacitors on this board went bad 5 years ago I replace the 2 that did go bad with identical ones, and I remember buying a 3rd one but I never replaced it as the old one was still good.. However it went bad today and its blown.. I found the new one I purchased but now that im looking at the two as I said the old one says 2200UF 10V the new one says 1000uf 35v... Both are exactly the same size though

I searched like 8 shops before I picked one.. it had good reviews online and people were really friendly.I picked the artist I wanted based on his portfolio and met him and gave him pictures of what I wanted which was a german ME262 jet from ww2. I've been wanting a tattoo for like 7 months

So he told me to come back in a week and I did and I left a 20$ deposit and the first session he said was going to be $400. Its on my upper arm/ shoulder part. It isn't a full half sleeve though.. its only in the front of the arm and I have another 7 inches before my elbow. He did the Jet, some clouds and did a pretty rush shitty Job on the 2nd plane.. but that's because time was running out and he had another customer after me... Which I didn't like.. he said to come back in 2 week after it had some time to heal so he can touch things up and work on stuff he didn't finish

Anyway I asked him if he could add the guns he forgot on the nose of the Jet and I wanted Line showing the removable plates the Jet had to service parts.. which in real life pics are pretty noticeable and give the Jet its distinctiveness..He told me the plates look like **** and he wont do it. Im afraid to ask him now to fix things or add things because when I ask hey can you add this on the plane please.. I can feel the tension in the air.... And now he wants another $400 for the 2nd session.. but $800 shouldn't that be a whole half sleeve not something that's like I got ? I put pics can you guys give me advice

I have a 1998 Jeep grand Cherokee 5.9 liter v8.. I bought it with 118k miles on it and I noticed shortly after buying it that it burned a little oil... I don't see smoke oil the tailpipe.. never have.. no blue or black smoke on a cold or warm startup or when I rev it.. The tailpipe if I wipe it with my finger is black though..

I ALWAYS drive in the city... Maybe I got on Interstate 95 but not for many miles.. I always had to refill the engine every 1500 miles.. I would put half a quart in and it would be back at the top of the max line. Then another 1500 I would do the same.. It would burn about 1 quart every 3k miles.. MAYBE tad more.. But now that I have to drive from Virginia to west Virginia every weekend to see a relative in prison.. I am driving 420 miles every weekend... and I noticed my oil consumption has double .The Jeep has 159k miles. and I never noticed a change in oil consumption until I started driving on the freeway like this.

I know these motor's have problems with intake manifold planum pan leaking oil into the intake.. I fixed that problem My compression is good about 160 average on all cyliners.. and I have a new PCV valve with a catch can which does catch oil...

Anyway Im guess my oil burning is internal and i guess the higher revs by driving freeway is why its doubled oil consumption. Gas mileage is normal.. I just got back from WV and I got 18.6mpg Which is great actually for this engine.. So should I worry ? is this excessive ?

Ok so I don't know much about taxes or credit cards or anything of this kind of stuff.. I want to build credit thought so I went into navy federal and asked them how I go about doing that. They sent me to a guy at a desk who asked my name, my moms names, and my address ect.. Then ask my income I made last year and I told him I don't have proof of the income I made. I get paid in cash for cutting people's grass and I told him how am I going to get a credit card like this ? I said don't I have to get a secure card or something ?

He asked how much I made again and I said maybe 5-10k.. And like 3 minutes later I was approved for a credit card with a 3k limit.. I was kinda shocked honestly.. I don't know how I was approved and he said my card will be mailed to me in 3-4 days... But my friend said I should go back in and cancel this card... Because they never asked for proof of income and I don't have any proof nore tax forms to show proof... and I can get in trouble for this.. So im really worried... Like I said I don't know much about this and the whole point of going in there was to ask for advice on how to get a card.. and instead I get approved for one..

So should I go back in tomorrow and cancel the card ?

Ive never had a credit card before.. I am a member of navy federal though and i want to start building my crediy.. but the thing is i work self employed and people pay me cash for landscaping.. Its just how i make money... I live at home still and i dont make that much money... Maybe 5-10k a year.. I never have filed for taxes before except when i worked retail jobs in between the last few years..

It isnt that i avoid paying taxes.. its just people pay me cash so i never had proof of income..

Anyway i dont know much about all this so i went to navy federal and asked how i apply for a credit card and stuff because ive never had one.. All he asked was my name.. My address and how long i have lived there.. and what my moms name was. And then asked my income.. I said 5 maybe 10k put i told him i dont have anyway to prove that income..

i was approved for a platinum card with a 3k limit 16% apr... I was really suprised

But im kinda worried now.. they never asked for proof of my income or my tax forms.. and since i dont have tax forms with my income from mowing grass for people then im kinda worried they will contact the IRS and ill get in trouble..

I dont plan on using this card and maxing it.. I just am going to use it to fill up on gas and then pay it back immediatly with the cash i would have used so i can build credit..

But im considering going back and just canceling this card..

What should i do ??

My fiancé is in prison now and we are trying to get me put on visitation.. She said the counselor there wouldn't accept the paper we printed out and filled when I dropped her off.. That I have to mail the form to her...

So im filling the form out... and I filled out the section my fiancé is suppose too since I already know her name and prisoner # ect.. but the section that says addressee what does that mean ?? Like technicly she is suppose to mail me the form and fill out the addressee part... so if this were her mailing me.. what would she put in for addressee would it be her name and address as the prison or is it my name and address ?

My Girlfriend of almost a year is going to prison for 2-3 years for something **** did in 2010 before I met her.. Long story short, we were engaged at one time and she did get pregnant as it was planned and we almost moved in together but she had an abortion for some reason and kept making excuses.. She finally told me what was going on and I agree with her abortion it was for the best.. She never knew she was going to prison until sentencing in May 1st.. So yea..

I love her deeply.. I know she loves me.. were both really scared I know I am, she says she will be ok and is tough and can handle doing time but she has always been a stone emotionally.. I have only seen her cry 3 times... Once when she talked about how her ex used to physically beat her.. Once when I told her how much I loved her and bought her a dress she was eyeing one day in the mall.. She said she was a bad person and didn't deserve it and I told her.. You aren't a bad person... I love you deeply and she started crying saying she doesn't know why I want to be with a virus like her..

She isn't a bad woman,, she lies a lot about things, yes but she is funny, smart, beautiful, makes me happy, and laugh, and I cant sleep at night in anticipation for the next day with her... I want to ask her to marry me again.. but she has to turn herself in on the 29th... I promised ill wait and visit her every week.. but im afraid she will say no and to wait till shes out to ask her.. I planned a nice dinner to ask

My girlfriend just laid a bombshell on me.. she is going to prison on the 29th... and asked if I could drive her to the prison.. I said don't you want your parents too ? she said no.. she wants me too because she wants to spend the last day with me.. and hasn't even told them the day she needs to turn herself in.

Ok now the last 4 months of our relationship have been really rocky.. and she even got a abortion in feb on a planned pregnancy.. She explained the abortion now was really because she was sentenced and I agree it was for the best now that I actually know this.. she said her pushing me away all the time was because she planned to go to prison and disappear from me.. she wanted me to move on and find a better person... but I told her.. why.. I love you.. ill wait for you.. why would you do that ?? She also came clean on other lies I suspected months prior.. she claimed she was working property management in D.C and some days she had to stay "late" were because of a basement flooding from the rain that night.. She actually worked in a jaz club.. but she gets off at 5pm.. I said ok then why were out till 12am.. she said that day she worked late and it was the truth.. I still dun believe it.. because she also mentioned later that day she never worked there when they opened at 5pm.

Other things she lied to me about that still don't add up.. Like once at a hockey game she wanted to leave early.. she had to work at 5am. So we did.. but she calls at 9am to pick her