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I have this friend (X) who asked me: How is your ex-wife in bed, I would like to sleep with her" Me and my ex-wife will never get remarried again but we do have 3 kids and maintain a good friendship. Now me and (X) have been friends for many years like since high school which was 8 years ago for me, he does have a reputation of 'once one person has seen me naked everyone else should.'

Also I have a great girlfriend whom he called up and asked to take his current squeeze two hours away and told me nothing about it. so it would have been 2 hours there with his current squeeze and two hours back just (X) and my girlfriend.

My brother also has a girlfriend whom once dated (X) (for like two weeks) now my brother and her have been dating for a little more than 2 years, but he still tells her he would love to do some pretty dirty things to her and of course she turns him down so nothing happens, but for at least a year he has been pursuing just sex from her. (and this is her account which she is letting me borrow to ask this question)

(X) also pursued sex from his cousins wife and got it from her, so he has no regard for family friends or a stranger.

(X) says he is a blunt person and wants all problems to be brought to his face, but when we bring it up and tell him that he is crossing boundaries (which is the term we use) he says that we have a f-ed up sense of boundaries.

So my question is does anyone out there have a list of boundaries so we can see who is wrong and who is right, or know of a website for a list of friend/girlfriend/exes appropriate boundaries?

I babysit a 2 yr old who cannot speak yet understands only simple commands. Now since I don't have a car the grandmother (who has custody) needs me to live here (free room and board) lets me leave on the weekends, she also provides my food off of her food stamps and we are working on adding me to her food stamps. I also smoke and she leaves me 2-4 cigerettes for the day (I used to smoke a pack a day) and she shares with me when she gets home so for 10 hours I have 2-4 cigerettes. This child also tries my patience on what he is not allowed to do. In that I mean: he has burned his hand twice on the stove and I put him in time out when he reaches for it and his grandmother pops his hand when he does it, which is just added stress. Honestly I have other places to go but then this child would not be taken care of. I only need food (even ramen is fine) Soda (its all I will drink) and cigerettes thats all I want. But she allows my access to her comcast (TV, internet, phone) so I need an answer to either how much should I ask for (and then how much I expend will be calculated to match) or what I should do to leave. Now I also need to add that she has a unruly 16 yr old (in and out of YDC) and a 13 yr old who perfectly takes care of himself. I also do not have a job since we can give a positive time for when I would be able to go into work. The grandmother has a job that can take up a few hours each day or several several hours each day so she might get off a two o'clock pm one day and the next day 6 o'clock pm the next but she goes in at 5 o'clock am everyday.